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How often do you watch tv?

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Tvtvtv · 20/02/2020 21:41

My DP moved in a month ago and he always seems to have the TV on.

Home from work, TV goes on, we cook/eat/clear up dinner then he asks what we’re going to watch/he suggests something/hints that he wants to watch something.

I get the weather is horrendous, dark nights and being tired from work.

Every night this week we’ve sat in separate rooms and it’s a small house until bed. I’m not sure what I’m asking to be honest but I’m so bloody bored and starting to miss my old life. If I had no plans/nothing on I’d invite friends over/last minute plans. He’s suggested because we haven’t seen each other much this week that ‘we get cozy tomorrow night and find a good film we want to watch’. I feel like I’m intruding on someone else’s life in my own house.

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sassafras123 · 20/02/2020 22:30

Radio always on in background. Tv only for specific programmes.

Snuffkindle · 20/02/2020 22:30

We're telly addicts. After dinner if we're in it's on. I do think it is unhealthy but we don't do anything about it

Darbs76 · 20/02/2020 22:31

I have the TV on all the time for background noise during the day. Evenings I watch TV in bed as I like to rest in bed. I’m a single mum and so have no-one to watch it with, kids do their own thing or want to watch sports. Sounds a bit more than just TV clashing. In his defence it’s fairly common to watch a lot of TV. Why don’t you suggest a date night / join a class together doing something etc?

Satsuma2 · 20/02/2020 22:34

Don't have a tv. Never have the urge to get one or watch something. I do have Netflix but only watch it on Friday or Saturday evening with a glass of wine. I like peace and quiet in the house, constant babble from the tv or radio drives me insane.

PickAChew · 20/02/2020 22:38

An hour or two, most evenings, once I'm too tired to do much else. Almost never in the day. I prefer the radio.

Notajogger · 20/02/2020 22:42

We only have a streaming service and rarely watch stuff in the evenings together, too busy doing other stuff - I don't really get how people have the time as well as keeping on top of everything else, particularly with kids. Years ago we watched it though so I'm not really sure what changed!!
Does seem like a bit of a waste of life though. As though on our death beds we'll remember good times watching telly, or wish we'd watched more

Ohyesiam · 20/02/2020 22:42

Yanbu op, I couldn’t live my life like that, id be bored to tears. I have no tv, subscriptions etc, just not very interested and don’t make time for it. But occasionally will watch something on bbc I player.

How did you spend your time together before he moved in? Have you talked about it? Are you still seeing your friends?

You must be very disappointed, are you compatible in other ways?

LEELULUMPKIN · 20/02/2020 22:51

The last time I watched my TV was for the Queen's Diamond Jubilee parade down the Thames in 2012!

Gogolego · 20/02/2020 22:53

Yabu

I watch breakfast news in the morning
Go to work where most of the chit chat revolves around tv. I watch some shows specifically so I can join in with the conversations.

I get home before 5, and the tv is on in the house before I get home till 12pm.

Tbf a lot of it is utter dross but it's quite often background noise whilst i do other stuff

firesong · 20/02/2020 22:55

Not much at all, I hardly like any telly. But when I've lived with a partner they normally watch it every night! I felt the same, but with my ex I ended up doing my hobby or reading and he'd do something else. When he sat down to watch something it was nice, but wouldn't want it every night, no way.

firesong · 20/02/2020 22:56

Poetryinaction · 20/02/2020 22:56

I watch one soap. Occasionally a documentary or drama or comedy. So some nights about 1hr but some nights nothing.

AmazingGreats · 20/02/2020 22:57

I don't watch tv that much. When I do I watch a box set addictively until I'm done. Usually when I'm Ill. Then back to not much (I do enjoy a documentary sometimes and love going to the cinema, when we can't go to a showing I make it like a cinema at home for the kids instead. I am not anti tv.)

My ex used to want to watch tv every night, and most other times too tbh. Insisted on a TV in the bedroom (which I had to turn off once he fell asleep because the light disturbed me, but he said my reading light disturbed him more). When i insisted on eating at the dining table he'd bring the IPad in, laptop or smart phone and watch programmes on there instead. Most nights we watched at least one film. If I got my phone out he'd say that I would miss the film and I remember sitting there bored to fucking tears most nights.

Just one of the many ways in which we were completely incompatible. Sometimes when me and the kids lose the remote now we don't bother look for it. Eventually one of them will ask and I'll realise that we haven't put it on for a week. Mostly if it's on it's in the background so I end up turning it off because I realise nobody is even watching it its just making everybody louder. We lead busy lives and have other devices for reading, social media and games when we want to use them. Life is short. We do listen to lots of music though.

firesong · 20/02/2020 22:57

Oops, I meant when WE watched something together it was nice. I'm just not a TV person

AmazingGreats · 20/02/2020 22:58

Only time I watch terrestrial TV is at Christmas, after the traditional buying and reading of the radio times when the programming actually isn't totally shit

Blondie1092 · 20/02/2020 23:05

Radio always on for background noise.
I rarely watch tv.
I really can't stand the fact that there are people who do nothing but watch tv. Sorry, controversial but there's more to life than TV.
DH watches TV every evening and it drives me insane.
People have lost the art of talking to each other or involving themselves in hobbies.
YNBU

Pastaforlunch · 20/02/2020 23:06

Before I lived with my boyfriend I watched a bit of TV, but not much, say a few hours of TV shows a week, and a film once in a blue moon.

He likes to watch a film most evenings, and have the TV on from about 5pm onwards, I've learned to accept it, but it still drives me mad at times!

So you have my sympathy!

GlitteryUnicornSparkles · 20/02/2020 23:14

I’m a bit of a telly addict tbh. I’m a single parent and I work fulltime. When I get home I’m usually knackered and generally just want to get my chores out of the way, grab a bath or shower, get comfy in my pjs, sort tea and flake out binge watching series on Netflix until bedtime, and sometimes I will even do so for a little bit on my computer in bed. So evening TV is definitely a thing in my house. Unless I have anything specific planned for my days off these are mostly spent binge watching TV too (around catching up with household chores), if my son is off school on the same days (I work on a rota over 7 days) then we will often have a duvet/movie day together. I do think time of year makes a difference to some degree though, I probably watch less TV in summer (although still quite a bit) as if the weather is nice I tend to feel a bit more motivated and I’m more inclined to sit out in the garden or be out gardening or taking the dog on longer walks etc. This time of year its dark and cold and the thought of having to do much beyond getting cozy under a blanket does not appeal to me.

When I was with my ex we enjoyed a lot of the same tv programs & movies so we would always veg out in front of the telly together of an evening if we were together.

Changeofjob · 20/02/2020 23:15

Since having DD I watch tv every night, prior to this I mostly met up with friends. Went to the gym or shopping.

I hate the fact that I watch TV every evening, inspire me! What else is everyone else doing indoors or with small children?

IHaveBrilloHair · 20/02/2020 23:19

Most days.
I have mainly got out of the habit of having it as background noise.
Maybe once a week I won't turn it on at all, another day or two, not until the evening, but the rest from getting up until going to bed.
I live alone so only me to decide.

ohnooutofdateham · 20/02/2020 23:20

The tv is only on if I'm actually watching something. This evening I watched 2 episodes of something so 2 hours of tv today. Other evenings I might read or be doing jobs in the house or having a long bath or mumsnetting

I so

DesLynamsMoustache · 20/02/2020 23:21

What would you see your evenings as without TV? What would you spend your time doing together? Why are you in separate rooms?

I don't like TV as background noise but I will happily actively watch stuff. Sometimes we do it together, sometimes I watch my own thing while he is playing a game, sometimes he's watching something while I read or do something else. Watching a film together is something we both enjoy.

I think most people don't generally have friends round midweek, do they?

ohnooutofdateham · 20/02/2020 23:24

Posted too soon.

I work 3 days a week and the other days I'm at home with 3.5yo ds. He gets cartoons at breakfast time, occasionally a cartoon after lunch and before dinner - max probably 2 hours a day and never after 5pm (bedtime is 7pm). I don't watch any tv of my own at all until DS is in bed.
We might watch more tv at the weekend if the weather is awful or if someone is ill it will be on more.

PatricksRum · 20/02/2020 23:26

Tv on all the time I'm at home.
Not really watching it, just for company background noise
I actually watch it, whilst still doing other stuff, maybe 1-2 hours per day

shamalidacdak · 20/02/2020 23:28

Sorry but I wouldn't put up with that. Your house your rules. But then I don't watch TV at all.

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