To ask about experiences of extreme PMS during perimenopause

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littleblackdress04 · 20/02/2020 08:56

My PMS is really really bad and has been getting worse the closer I get to menopause- I am 46. I used to sail through my periods but now, in the days before, everything seems amplified in a way it’s never been before. I get so low, things feel hopeless. I feel sad and lonely and angry and a wreck and irrational. It feels a bit like a 4 day depression- I feel like no one in the world cares for me & I get really dark.

Then my period happens and I am fine again- it’s become really extreme.

Aibu to think it’s linked to perimenopause? Anyone else experienced this? I have no history of depression or anything similar either so no experience of feeling so low

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magicsoakingmyspine · 20/02/2020 09:26

I've been feeling exactly the same, feel totally hopeless hating everything and everyone, and cry, a lot. It's noticeably worsened over the past year or so.

I don't track my period, so when it arrives I get a ahhaaaa lightbulb moment about why I've been feeling like that. I also during the week leading up to my period have this need just to stuff my face, almost like a compulsion. Again, it all makes sense when my period arrives.

I'm about the same age and you, I need to start looking at what I can take to help alleviate these symptoms. If you find something that helps, please let me know.

magicsoakingmyspine · 20/02/2020 09:26

I've been feeling exactly the same, feel totally hopeless hating everything and everyone, and cry, a lot. It's noticeably worsened over the past year or so.

I'm about the same age and you, I need to start looking at what I can take to help alleviate these symptoms. If you find something that helps, please let me know.

magicsoakingmyspine · 20/02/2020 09:27

I've been feeling exactly the same, feel totally hopeless hating everything and everyone, and cry, a lot. It's noticeably worsened over the past year or so.

I'm about the same age and you, I need to start looking at what I can take to help alleviate these symptoms. If you find something that helps, please let me know.

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littleblackdress04 · 20/02/2020 10:10

Hi @magicsoaking it’s rubbish isn’t it! I use Clue to track but i still struggle with it all and feel so down up to my period!

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FourFlapjacksPlease · 20/02/2020 10:19

I'm exactly the same. My PMS has changed from being irritable to either blind rage or deep sadness. For 4 days every month I google plan how to leave DH, check Rightmove for houses I could buy alone and try not to kill random strangers who irrationally annoy me. It's so debilitating! I've decided enough is enough and am off to the GP to ask for HRT next week.

EKGEMS · 21/02/2020 00:21

I'm the exact same age but I'm in chemical menopause as treatment to prevent a recurrence of breast cancer-my oncologist said I would be unable to control my hormonal rages (no one could) and I'm on Effexor 75 mg a day. I think going from normal hormonal levels to total menopause was too drastic to emotionally deal with life

Msmcc1212 · 21/02/2020 00:36

I’m the same age and having same issue. I’m trying traditional acupuncture and various supplements and there is definitely improvement but not sure which is making the must difference but this month was the easiest it’s been for a while. If it gets worse again I’m going try and get HRT. Good luck, be kind to yourself. 💐

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