In law problems

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My sister in law hates me

Fine in frount of MIL but when she gets her chance she tries to attack me even when I was pregnant which DH did have to stop her from getting to me.

But recently she came flying out the house at me for no reason saying I had beef?

I kinda looked at her like she was stupid as I have never had. A problem with her actually her brother my DH hates her a d I'm the one pulling them together.

She constantly tells her mother that I'm the one causing a rift when really it's her. But she causes problems between me and my MIL and my other SIL and its not fair on my two children (4+1)

I recieved a few nasty messages from her calling me a cow and that her bro (her words not mine) doesn't have a problem and its me.

I got upset about the nasty messages and told my DH who says she's a dick, she's a bog eyed nonse ect but the name calling does take me feel better it's the fact he can't say anything to his family regarding it its like he just allows them to treat me badly.

I would understand if I had been horrible to the SIL but I used to look after her child for her and when she was in trouble (hospital) I was there and I slept on the sofa with her child while she got some rest in bed. I've tried with the woman and have always felt it wasn't good enough.

We don't have to see her in a regular basis as she doesn't live close but even living a few hours away she always causes a huge rift between myself and the in laws and its just not fair.

You have a dh problem. Why would he allow his sister to treat you this way and not discuss ir with his parents if it’s causing problems with them? What is his solution for you to have a harmonious relationship with his parents?

Can you ask her to sit down with you and try to get to the bottom of things? "SIL, I don't know what you think my "beef" is, but this atmosphere isn't working and I'd like to sort it out. If we can't get past it, can we at least be civil for the sake of the children?"

You don't know what your DH has said to her (& if he is calling her names to you then being nice to her face, perhaps he's been having a whinge about you behind your back too).

Her called her what? Christ you've got yourself mixed up with some awful people! Is this shameless???

You put up with this insanity? More fool you. Remove yourself from the lunacy and don't take part in it. Have more self respect.

Depends, your MIL will always take SIL side and so she should in a way, it's her daughter but if she can see her daughter is wrong and it's making family gatherings uncomfortable I thought she would have interviened.

So I have a feeling your husband is a lot to blame here. He should not have let it get this far, you should have all got together in the same room and cleared the air. He has not done this. Which makes me think he's been portraying you as the bad guy.

So going forward you can either cut access with his family. This will probably cause tension between you and your DH, or you come together and talk it out and then see the outcome. Either way you do not deserved to be treated that way.
She should respect you for being her nieces or nephews mother. End of.