To be offended by this comment?

[TellMeMore2020]

I'm 15 weeks pregnant and am feeling slightly conscious about my changing body. I asked my DH "do you still find me attractive?" and his response was "when you're naked". He then got up and went to the shower like it was ok to say it?!

Am I being sensitive or am I right to be annoyed by this?

It’s annoying- men don’t always think before they speak! I wouldn’t take it too seriously though, it was probably a bad attempt at a joke. If you’re really upset, tell him that you’re not happy and you’d like an apology

Also congratulations on your pregnancy! Hope everything goes well

It sounds like he was joking.

Try not to ask questions like that when your pregnant, lol.

(It's ok if he doesn't fancy you when you've got a human growing inside you, it's how he treats you and how you re-connect after that's important)

And congratulations!

I’d take that as a massive compliment at 15 weeks pregnant, or even now when I’m definitely not pregnant

What do you think he meant by it?

Better that than "Only when you're dressed", surely?

I'd stop asking questions like that, especially when you're feeling self conscious. You'll read something into every word, pause, facial expression etc.

I don't really understand what he means by that. Do you?

I wouldn't be offended at all. I would try not to overthink it. Sounds like his attempt at a compliment.

He probably thought he was being funny

As someone who has been married for 20 years and learnt the hard way, don’t ask questions like that!

Thanks for the opinions. I'm obviously being touchy 🙃

Isn’t that when it’s good to look your sexiest? If he’d said ‘You’re attractive when you’re dressed’ you’d be more upset. Can’t see the issue here!

He likes you naked. This is positive, surely?!

I don’t see the issue... maybe don’t ask questions if you don’t really want to know the answer.

He was meaning he likes your shape when you’re naked I’m guessing. I think he was being complimentary.

If you look sexy naked while pregnant you are doing well.

It's just a witty reply. Your over thinking it

I think he was trying to be funny as a compliment, like he finds you attractive naked when he can see all of you. Men can be awful at compliments. Mines never given me one and has told me a few times this week ive gotten fat. Yes called me fat and the best bit is he genuinely means it as a compliment take it as he wants to see you naked more

My DH would say this too and I'm way past the being pregnant stage, he thinks hes funny, I'm used to it now. Would you prefer him to say he didnt?. I think he is saying yes to your question.

Actually your question was offensive. Do you really think he is so shallow?

Oh please! It was a perfectly innocent question. Of course she wants her bloke to find her attractive, there’s nothing shallow about that.

Theres absolutely nothing offensive about her question for christs sake.

And theres nothing shallow about being attracted to your partner.

It sounds like a lighthearted, non-offensive comment to me. Is there a specific reason why it made you feel uncomfortable?

Congrats on the pregnancy!