To dislike my 5 year

[iwantalittleone]

Ok I'm half-jesting but my god my 5 year old DS is really, really testing me.

He's got tonsillitis at the moment so I fully appreciate that he's not going to be on top form but even when he's well I feel like sometimes he hates me or something!

The constant whinging, whining, crying, bad attitude, speaking to me like he detests me is wearing me down. He's as good as gold at school but I genuinely sometimes really dislike his company and that makes me feel so sad. Does it pass? I'm at the end of my tether I feel like it's only me he does this for

He’s also not very well and in pain as tonsillitis is sore my 14 year old was the same when he was unwell but I have 4 boys and they are whiny, trying etc yes but it depends if they know you’ll give in to that behaviour they test you constantly and sometimes as someone says after a full on day at school you’re their safe place somewhere they can let of steam - you can direct that though and try to parent positively which is hard but the benefits are worth it, but make sure you self care and have time for yourself too, in my head sometimes I am screaming but you’d never know to look at me

Mine is 6 and he is exactly the same at the moment. He doesn't even have the excuse of being ill, he's just turned into a cheeky wee shit.

5 year old are horrible! They know exactly which buttons to press, but it does get easier! Sending you big hugs xx

My twelve year old is still like this, extremely challenging at times. Will still have a full on flailing, screaming, rolling around the floor tantrum at having to do something he doesn’t want to, or me not catering to his every whim. However, it is now easier because I can kind of point out how ridiculous he is being and we sometimes manage to laugh about it later. He’s always been very hard work but I love him to bits. And he behaves perfectly well at school and out in public!

Thank fuck it aint just me. Ds6 is a fucking arsehole at times. I find mornings particularly stressy. Bedtime can be too if hes not tired enough. Keeping asking myself when does this shitty stage end??

Could he be on the Autistic Spectrum? I am not using this lightly but is it worth having a chat with your GP? . No-one feels at their best when they aren't well and children don't have the language to express their frustrations in the same way as we do and if it's not just when he is off colour, it might be worth looking into. Are you getting support from Dad?

Thanks for all the replies I can't express how reassuring it is to read that others are experiencing the same!

Absolutely not intending to be a victim, just needed an outlet after 5 hours sleep and a really shit day haha! I should be sleeping now but I've been woken up and struggle to fall back asleep!

I haven't ever considered him being autistic, he doesn't really give me any obvious reason to think that unless I'm missing something! But yes lots of support from my OH - he is normally excellent at nipping the behaviour in the bud, he can distract him easily and avoid a meltdown (which makes me feel proud of him for being a great parent but also a bit jealous that he can and I can't ha!) but even he struggled tonight so I know DS is feeling properly rotten poor lad!

Awkward1 - I haven't ever heard of PANDAS, what an interesting read! So since being poorly DS has been really obsessive about smells - saying his bedroom smells - it really doesn't, he doesn't want his sister to come near him because her nappy smells, even if it's just got wee in! I had to spray fabreeze in his room to pacify him tonight he can't tell me what it smells of though, he said "daddy's snoring" when we asked!? Definitely some signs of obsessive behaviour now I'm thinking about it but only these last few days!

Wait until he’s a teen. Nothing in life prepares or compares to it. Buckle up and hold on tight