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GuessWhoBoo · 18/02/2020 23:38

Looking for some advice please.

I have a different name on birth certificate to what I've always been known by from day 1.
The person isn't any relation to me and something personal happened years ago.
I now need my birth certificate (only once I ever needed it) but can't bare the thought of looking at it with that name. ( Name has been changed by deed poll) apparently this isn't a certificate of identity.
I want it removed.
Would this be possible?

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rosiejaune · 19/02/2020 01:25

If you mean you don't like your birth surname and want it removed from your birth certificate, no that's not possible.

It isn't a certificate of identity in the sense that you can't use it like you would a passport, to prove you are the person listed.

But it is supposed to be an accurate record of the circumstances at the time of your birth, and as such, can't be changed unless there was a mistake. And even then, the original information would be noted on the (long form) corrected certificate.

If this person was listed as your biological father when he wasn't, you can get that corrected if you can prove it. But you still can't remove your original surname even if it was his.

user1473878824 · 19/02/2020 01:42

OP, it must be horrible to feel like that, but I think looking at it is a moment, and something you need to put less store on, however horrible it is, rather than letting it be a Thing in your life. I’m 31 and I’ve seen my birth certificate once and then my mum lost it. It’s a piece of paper. It isn’t you. It doesn’t matter.

user1473878824 · 19/02/2020 01:43

There is no connection to that person unless you let it be x

GuessWhoBoo · 19/02/2020 09:11

Thanks for the replies.
He isn't my birth father. I can't get the DNA to prove it, I've never met birth father don't think he even knows I exist ( I know where he lives).
I know i should just let it go but it's so hard after what he did.
I asked DVLA to accept deed poll they said they won't without the birth certificate.
Guess I'm just going to have to learn to live with it somehow.
Thanks all x

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