Aibu to worry about this??

[Penny12355]

Well I think it's natural for any mother to worry about this. But basically my OH has epilepsy and I'm a bit scared.. I am due in 2 and a half weeks, but his epilepsy isnt the ones that happen very often and there the grand mal ones. His triggers have always been if he drinks waay to much the night before and he is hungover, since his last one he has had one beer on his 30th birthday and that was it, but my mum and dad are upsetting him as anytime we talk about him looking after the baby they say "you couldnt really look after the baby by yourself I suppose incase you took a fit" and me and him both always know if hes going to take one as he can barely hold a conversation but as I say triggers are drink, but like I never really worried about before but since my mum and dad keep saying about it I'm like should I worry.. should I not leave him with the baby for more than an hour? He already has a daughter from a previous and he is a great dad, to be honest hes probly better with babies and children more than what I am, it makes me feel sick to my stomach though that something could possibly happen if I was away a night and what if he was bottle feeding the baby or nursing her or we have a 3 story house if he fell down the stairs with the baby or something, but I do know that to much alcohol is his trigger and he has upped his medication he has a blister pack thing and takes tablets 9am every morning and 9pm at night, what do you all think would use worry or do use know anyone that has epilepsy and have children x

I think only you can decide this. Personally I would trust that my husband knew himself well enough to know he could cope or to say when he couldn’t.

There is a risk that he could have a seizure however if he gets a good enough warning that should be enough to get baby and himself to a safe space.

Personally I would be extra vigilant in the first few weeks with lack of sleep in case this became a trigger but there is no reason why he can't be a good dad. Wishing you both the best of luck with everything :)

Thanks guys! Also a question.. I am a bridesmaid for my sister in law to be, I missed their engagement party due to pregnancy sickness, and her hen party is the 18th of april! My baby will only be like 5 or 6 weeks old, my due dates the 7th of march, and it's an all day thing and a night away in a city an hour away from my home town so we would be heading out and staying in a hotel up there, would that be far to soon to leave the baby, especially with my OH having epilepsy and imagine the baby cried all night for him cause the baby missed me or something. . Unless I just see what the baby is like at night or how she sleeps, feel like it would be a bit to soon,

In all honesty I’d be suprised if you wanted to leave the baby that early on. I think as you cannot guarantee when the baby will arrive or how the baby will arrive (you could have a c section) or how you will be feeling so soon after having a baby, saying no for now would be best. You could always book yourself in if you feel up to it after the baby.

No way would I have wanted to leave the baby at 5 weeks - especially if you're planning on breastfeeding.

I wouldn’t leave a baby that young (could be younger if overdue)

Exactly! It is way to young, my sister in law will understand, it would maybe be different if it was just dinner and a few drinks round my home town, but its staying up in a hotel an hour away from where I live; wouldnt be very fair on my OH aswell just leaving him with a 5 week old over night for the first time, baby might not settle for him