People's advice! Because it worked ' when my kids were small' or am I getting worked up over nothing.

[JustBecauseItWorkedForYou]

I may be UR. 4 weeks PP and at the moment I feel everything is in top of me so I don't know if I'm being over sensitive.

4 week old has suspected CMPA. Got to give 2 more weeks with his symptoms then will be trying a prescription formula.. As gp wants to check weight gain on 2 weeks.
Anyway 1 symptom is constipation. He really struggles for days on end. Mil now 3 times has said.. Put brown sugar in his bottle I did.. No its OK I'll follow advice and sugar isn't the best idea. The last time she said it was today. I again said no I won't be doing that.
Also for teething a bit of brandy on the dummy is a god send apparently! Ffs. Anbusol is good enough mil.

I often get advice like this.. Now I'm All for hearing stories of how people did things and what worked but I feel like they want me to do the same.. Which I wouldn't obviously
Mil just called dh and said did you try the sugar.. He just said yeah.. No luck ( we didn't but it seemed to shut her up for now.)

For some reason it's just irritated me all day, does anyone else get this issue.

@NotALurker2

Oh come off it who on earth gives 4 week old babies sugar? Of course it's outdated and brandy on the dummy?! OP is clearly much better off following medical advice for her baby's medical issues. If you feel compelled to give your future DiL advice you'd be better off waiting until she asks for it or at least leaving it to her to decide whether or not she follows it - if she doesn't want to she doesn't have to.

@BottleOfJameson Best of luck.

Smile and nod op, smile and nod. Crackers to suggest brandy and sugar. Yep it might of been the norm at one time but that doesn't mean it's a good idea.

I expect I’ll be doing it in 20 years’ time

Exactly! It's advice of the day, who's to say that in twenty years time much of it will be being ignored and ridiculed by your 'children'. When things which are now sneered at were done they were done with the best of intentions, not to harm the baby.

This really isn't worth getting worked up over. You just have to select out the rubbish. My MIL advocated putting boric acid on DS's cradle cap - I had to keep my head well down otherwise it would have been so evident that I was thinking "Are you completely insane, woman?"

Ooer.. back in my day (🙄) I was told , by my gp, to put brown sugar in boiled water to cure my daughter’s constipation. I scoffed but he said he’d got four children and it worked for them. I said that midwife warned me against this due to too much sugar. He replied that it would only be once.
It bloody worked.

Some doctors do still recommend brown sugar and warm water for constipation because it does work. I had to use it occasionally as my DD has a medical condition that causes constipation. It was a real gentle way to get her going again. It's not like it's massive amounts every day.

My MIL suggested putting baby rusks in DS’s milk to help him sleep and not need a feed in the night. He was about 6 weeks old at the time. DH asked her how she thought we could do this as I was breastfeeding. It used to be common practice to put rusks in a baby’s bottle and enlarge the hole in the teat (not a choking hazard at all!)

NotALurker2 if someone suggested to you that you should let a new born sleep on their front as that is what they did in their day would you follow that advice?

Ugh. I was happily giving my friend advice about her pregnancy until she told me that was five years ago, things are different now. You blink and then you're old and redundant. Oh well, at least I sleep through the night nowadays.

Okay well I don't sleep through the night, that was a lie. But at least no nappies!

You are being over sensitive bit is is understandable. I get all sorts of advice from my mum, mil and millions of aunties and listen politely but then do what I think is best. Some old school remedies do work and I tried the brown sugar when my dd was 8 months old and it did work, i preferred that to giving her movicol. I would try baby massage and see if that helps improve the discomfort for your lo.

Just because someone gives you advice it doesn't mean you have to follow it. You are the parent so use your own judgement. As annoying as it can be it often comes from a good place otherwise they wouldn't bother giving you suggestions so just be polite but firm.

Given this is not your first baby I would expect you to know to take what advice you find helpful and ignore the rest.