Think I may have shot myself in the foot.my friend had met somebody new. This person is out of a very very long term relationship with a selfish abusive much older person who was also sexually coercive.this person has declared undying love for my friend in the first three weeks and has turned into his mother overnight.cooking, cleaning, runningnafter him, be available round the clock, hanging onto his every word.
Knowing him as I do, I was very surprised. He is a commitment phobe who cannot bear needy women.
She won't use contraception and Is hung up on having a baby.
So he asked me what I thought. I told him.
Along the lines Of how surprised I am
At his choice.
And how he can have any respect for her when she throws herself at him all the time
And he picks her up and drops her as and when. Told him he treats her like shit so what is he doing when he clearly hasn't respect for her.
They are growing as a couple. He is more into it. She remains his pseudo mother.
Except now I find him trying to impress her on me and it's so Uncomfortable.
I have not met her and the impression I get is one of a fawning adoring girl following him around like a grateful poodle.It was him who told me all of this so I'm only basing my thoughts on his words. It's awkward now as I have always been on ' her side' as he was awful to her and she was clearly grateful and needy and desperate .
She still is but instead of being turned off he is really enjoying being mothered. How can I make this less awkward . I feel like I was too honest . Too late? I'd like to meet her but he keeps putting me off.