In and out of my life

[bashoono25]

My sister and I used to be really close. Fast forward, I have 2 year old twins, my sister has a new dp and is planning on moving away. I've hardly seen her all year as she's been with him, living at home with my parents and away on weekends. I am happy for her obviously but it was hard adjusting to not seeing her often. I've found other things to do, new friends, developed a support network with the kids and saw her when we both could. It was lovely catching up with her when we planned days off.

Dp's not available this week on holiday and my sister asked if I want to spend time together. I said yes but I'm feeling resentful. I feel she's asking too much wanting to hang out all week and I feel the only reason she wants to is because he's away. She says she wants to help me with the kids, spend time with us but where has she been all year? She has her own life but I have to. I feel like she swans in and out when it suits her. Aibu not to want to see her all week?

She has extra free time and instead of just taking some "me time" or something like that she has offered to help with your kids and spend lots of time with you.
I think it's how you look at it.

I think she probably feels the loss of the relationship as you do. People mature at different rates and due to different experiences. If you ever want to have a relationship with your sister I would say this is your last chance to try

Sounds like her man is controlling and is stoping her seeing you. The first opportunity she has she's there for you with bells and whistles. Talk to her lots about her man, she could be getting into something she finds very difficult to get out of.

It could just be that she's busy and finally got a free moment and her first choice is to come and spend over due time with you. It's normal once you get a partner and life gets busy to see people a little less - especially if there is a distance. If a week is too much just tell her so. It's possible he's controlling but staying with parents surely they'd pick up on it, I'd say more likely life just getting in the way.

Say no then, you don't have to see her.

Or suggest something that suits you instead.