Aibu to ask for some advice...confusing situation and depression

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I'm in my late 20s and had ongoing depression for a number of years now, my trigger seems to be fear of abandonment/falling out with people. As a result I am a classic people pleaser which can be exhausting.

I own a 3 bed house, and have a friend currently renting off me (everything 50/50) however friend has stated she wants to move out due to her MH getting triggered by mine (when I'm anxious it makes her anxious etc). Shes already made an account on a popular home finder website 12 hours after telling me this. Its all a bit out the blue and this has made me feel really anxious, I've been sick and not been well today.

So my situation is I'm going to be living alone in a 3 bed house, no other friends in a position to move in as most either live with partners/live too far away. I have a boyfriend of 1 year where we both want to live together but have both agreed it's too early days yet. I could sell my house but by the time I've downsized, I might be looking to move in with boyfriend. I could get a random move in but I'd be worried about what sort of person they be. I could rent somewhere smaller and rent my place out but I have cats so would be difficult.

I'm just at a loss of what to do here :(

Can you afford to live there without renting the room out?

At night I always find things seem worse. I would write down the ideas you have thought of, to get them out your head and then try to sleep now and think about it in the morning.

Did you buy the house for yourself or did you presume you’d have a rented guest as soon as you bought it?
If you don’t want/can’t afford to live alone in your house, could you downsize to something more bearable?

Regardless of her reasoning, this was always going to be a temporary arrangement though.

As you’d be living with/renting to a lodger, they have limited rights compared to a tenant. So if there’s issues, it’s much easier to ask them to leave as an excluded occupier

Also how are you managing your depression and anxiety?

You won’t be alone because I’m sure your boyfriend could come over some nights etc.

If living in the 3 bed alone truly scares you, it might be worth downsizing

Get another renter in if you need the money. Friend has successfully had lodgers for years.

Are you worried you can't afford it alone? If you do Airbnb they'd not stay long enough to get on your nerves. Or, go for a business person who needs a room only in the week, you could try MondaytoFriday.com.

Thank you all for your kind suggestions. To answer a few questions, I could afford to live here on my salary , it would be a squeeze but its doable.

I brought the house a few years back with the purpose of sharing with a couple of friends, who moved out to live with partners last year (I was aware of this).

To manage depression I'm on 50mg sertraline bit have a GP appointment at to see what's going on mentally here:(

Also thanks @CSIBlonde I'll try Monday to Friday:)

Get a lodger?

I'm not sure why selling your house and buying a smaller one would help, after all the costs involved surely you wouldn't actually be saving much at all.
Get a lodger in, not a friend, make it a proper business arrangement, as I've learnt the hard way mixing business and friendship never works out.

@BusterGonad yeah I couldn't agree more in that case. I think selling and downsizing would be counterproductive especially as me and DP want to move in next year

Stick it out if you can op, try to rent a room out, if you and DP end up living together your house sounds idea.