To consider regression therepy?

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I have always had a major problem with alcohol, I started drinking at 13 and haven't really stopped since. Now in my 40's with three wonderful children and a brilliant partner but I still keep making the same mistakes, its obviously now becoming more obvious to my children.

I really want to be happy, but for some reason find it really hard to be in a loving ,stable family, I just seek oblivion over everything.

I don't remember much of my childhood, my OH thinks this is a massive sign, I think its just that I drank and did drugs.

I have tried counselling in the past, but OH thinks I need to find the 'cause' , whereas I don't think there is a cause, its just me?

Has anyone had regression therapy that has worked? Is it worth it?

I haven't had it. I would be sceptical I'd also be worried if I discovered something terrible or the therapist wasn't reputable. I know it is the not the same thing but I was friends with a so called medium she ruined and played devils advocate with lots of clients. I believed she was genuine she kept the pretence up with everyone.
Knowing what I know now she was a prankster.
The only way to control your drinking is to stop completely, easier said than done but it is your only way out, start with AA.

A therapist wouldn't necessarily suggest regression therapy
You are doing something that makes you unhappy to obliterate feelings of unhappiness
I think your DH is right you probably would find it helpful to talk to someone
But you can hunt around for the someone whose methods you are most comfortable with

Sorry I meant to say finding the cause isn't necessarily regression therapy

Its good that you want to reach out for help. I'd start with your GP who can refer you to services with a proven success rate in treating alcohol dependency.

A BACP accredited Counsellor would be better. Anyone can set up as a 'Regression' therapist. I'd say not remembering a large part of your childhood points to something happening, either an event or a terrible, unhappy time. I had an alcoholic ex colleague many years ago who drank due to parental neglect which led in turn to childhood rape. Addiction is often an attempt to escape & seek oblivion from trauma or distress so I'd echo pp & see a GP for Counselling & addressing the alcohol issue.

I remember exceedingly little from my childhood. We joke its just due to me having a rubbish memory but, as I've got older, I see 'flashes' of really awful things.

The problem is that although they seem real, I can't guarantee they are. Memory is so fallible, especially memories that are decades old. There are studies showing how unreliable these past 'memories' are so any regression therapy or discussioned therapy around buried 'memories' needs to be taken with a massive pinch of salt..

I can't remember what happened. Maybe I've locked terrible things away, maybe I'm mixing dreams with reality, maybe I just have a terrible memory. There is absolutely no way of knowing the truth so is there really any benefit to opening yourself up to it?

The problem is that although they seem real, I can't guarantee they are I suffered with false memories in the past but usually when I was really depressed.
I don't think you can fully block out sexual abuse, I might be wrong. I had an incident as a child I don't remember the actually act of abuse though I remember before and after knowing it happened. Depression caused false memories in me now I'm well I no longer have them. Are there any memories good or bad or is it a total blank.

Would you consider AA sometimes it helps to be around people who understand.

Regression therapy is available on the NHS via hypnotherapy services. Talk to your GP. You may be referred to counselling first though.

It's too open to suggestion and human memory is absolutely rubbish anyway.

Go via tried and tested routes x

Even if you discover the cause, that doesn't solve the problem. The problem is right now, that you are drinking too much and upsetting yourfamily and yourself. It's now, not the past that you need to focus on. You can't change the past. and digging up trauma from it won;t necessarily make it any easier to deal with your drink issues. I agree with PPs who say try AA or a similar programme.