To be petrified of not being able to fall pregnant

[Butterflyflower1234]

I'm 33 years old and finally I'm in a position to start TTC. It feels like all my adult life I've be scared of becoming pregnant and now I'm finally ready I'm so worried I might not be able to become pregnant.

I had an operation in April 2019 to remove some scar tissue from my womb. They checked my ovaries and said I had lots of eggs and my ovaries were slightly larger.

I've had my coil removed since December 2019 and my periods are regular at appear normal.

I'm just looking for a but if reassurance please.

The only thing I would say is don't leave it too long to get IVF if you fail to conceive naturally. If you're not pregnant 6 months from now then give it some serious consideration.

I don't know if it's reassuring exactly but I started trying at 32 and was successful. It did take 13 months though so don't panic after 6.

. I know this isn't want you want to hear but The hard fact is a bunch of random people on Mumsnet can not give any reassurance that it will happen. Every women who is TTC I'm sure has the "What if it doesn't happen", fear. That's perfectly normal.
Good luck on exciting journey. Keep it fun make sure Sex doesn't become a chore. It's there to be enjoyed not just for making babies.

I worried about the same. Sadly it did turn out that we needed IVF. If I had my time again, I'd seek help sooner. Good luck OP.

Thanks for the replies.

I've already considered the egg sharing IVF option. I'd like the idea of potentially helping someone else too.

I think if we're not pregnant by September then I'll start the IVF ball.

I'm wondering if there is anything I should be doing. Like a doctors appointment for pre pregnancy? I'm taking folic acid and I've been losing weight. I'm still considered slightly overweight but I've lost over 3kg since the new year.

I found the stressing about it will only hold you up. It took me 18months to fall pregnant but that resulted in a miscarriage then several more months to fall pregnant again. I now have a nearly 5 month old DS.
Try to relax, eat healthy, don’t drink to much, some exercise and have a regular sex life.
It’s also very common for it to take 6 months or more to fall pregnant so don’t stress!

Please don't stress about it at this stage.

You could try acupuncture - my acupuncturist (who I saw for other things) was a fertility specialist, she used to get referrals nd recommendations from NHS IVF clinics as the success rate was higher and she said there was lots they could do to improve chances as well when conceiving naturally.

Try and become more aware of your monthly cycle, I had never given it much thought before but now I know when I'm ovulating, and its actually earlier than I thought eg day 10 not 14.

I TTC at the same age as you and was expecting it to take 6 months, I was so shocked when it happened first time. I know a few people this happened to, and some including me found it very hard to get our head around. A fair few of my friends fell pregnant in their late 30s without any issues at all.

Lastly the fertility falling off a cliff at 35 is based on very old data (so old that it was when life expectancy was shorter etc) and people are healthier in general now. Where I live you're not classed as an older mother with potential for more issues until you get pregnant after 40

I don't think a doctor will be able to tell you any more about TTC than the internet will

I think every woman has a what if I cant conceive thought when you get to the age of wanting children.
I would say try not to worry, I would go into it with the thought of let's have fun for a few months. Enjoy all the practising and get a few date nights in there before you fall pregnant and your world changes.
If you do end up needing medical help then adress that down the line.