Neighbours noise - would appreciate honest views

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Struggling to know what to do - live in a semi, neighbour both in 80s, both hard of hearing. TV on permanently so loud we can hear EVERY WORD through wall.

There isn't much in their lives so to be nice people we have tolerated it, but they have recently moved to watching TV upstairs from 7pm so it's so loud it's waking children.

I genuinely don't know what to do. Was so frustrated tonight (I can't concentrate) I nearly snapped and was going to bang on wall, but I haven't. If I ask them I am sure they might turn it down but then I'd feel awful as they clearly need it that loud to hear. Wwyd?

You have my sympathies OP. I too have elderly neighbours who are hard of hearing and their telly is loud enough to for me to hear every word.I live upstairs in a converted house and all my rooms are joining theirs. They also have a sheep dog who never gets walked and barks constantly, even during the night. I can only assume they can’t hear it. I have tried to go round and speak to them but they never answer the door, presumably again, because they can’t hear it. My downstairs neighbours say they’ve been round and spoke to them about the noise. They agree to turn the tv down but after a day or two it’s just as loud again.

We have this too. But our neighbours put up with DD recorder "playing" and keyboard "practice" (I bet they can't actually hear it.)
But dd has learned to sleep thru their TV and we don't cause a fuss. Cos they are well into their 70s, it wont be forever and they don't complain about our noise plus they take our bin in every week and parcels all the time.

The best thing you can do is discuss it with them and as they are elderly offer some practical help/advice to find a solution for you both.

I can hear my neighbours tv and I don't think they have it very loud as I can also hear normal conversations and then walking up the stairs. If they ever complained to me, I would be prepared to move the tv ect a

They're probably deaf and can't hear without the volume higher than normal. I would probably have a friendly chat when the occasion arises but it's tricky as they can't help it. Can you put your own TV on louder to drown it out?

Talk to them and try to find a compromise. It may be that as you've never said anything they assume you can't hear it. Lots of good neighbours who live in thin-walled flats wear headphones.

If it remains a problem and they're unwilling to do anything about it call the Environmental Health department of the council and ask for advice.

Thanks all. Really practical advice.. They don't get out etc and rely on TV for company so I don't want to upset them so will go gently. Thanks again

This is useful website

www.actiononhearingloss.org.uk/shop/listening-devices/

But they can ask for assessment by hard of hearing team via self referral (they can write a letter or get a relative or friend to help them rung in) to their adult social services department who will then send it to right sensory team. It's not just hearing loss equipment they advise on or provide, they also give advice including on local hearing loss clubs.

I have problems hearing(since I was in my 40s!) and my Niece is deaf as well, only in her mid 30s .Subtitles are your friend here ! Maybe pop over and explain nicely ? They are so easy to put on /off and help so much .Also much better quality than they used to be as well! They will be probably mortified !

Good luck with the conversation OP! My farmer FIL has machine damage to his ears and as a result is rather deaf. We ended up getting him a wireless headset linked to the tv to save my misophonia-suffering sanity. It works like a charm, I do recommend!

Subtitles are the only answer - I speak from experience being deaf myself. I guess they are watching TV upstairs in bed now, rather than downstairs.

Glenhaggis I find exactly the same with my hearing aids. They magnify all sound and voices are often very difficult to distinguish. I have sympathy for OP but being deaf, at whatever age is a disability.