To turn off the wifi after 10:30pm during school holidays

[Bleakskies]

Getting a bit sick of the kids gaming till the early hours with headsets on.

I'd be interested to hear what time you let your teen boy stay online gaming till?

A friend of mine changes the WIFI password regularly. To get it back, his sons have to write an essay of 200 words about the last book they read. It's an amazing idea.

Of course you're not BU. Kids still need sleep in the holidays.

Depends how old they are 15 or younger is fine 16+ is not really cool.

I would never do that. Obviously depends on personal circumstances but for my DD turning off the wifi at any point could be potentially dangerous.

I dont turn mine off my DS is 14, he soon realises he still needs to be up at a reasonable time the next day so he doesn't seem to be in to late.
I have woke up at 2am before and hes been on it so I took his phone and kindle out his room and turned xbox off at 11 for the next 2 nights, he seemed to learn his lesson then.

I let DS self regulate to a certain extent. As curious, he did 2am once and has his phone confiscated for 24hrs. I said if I ever caught him again it'll be phone and iPad but so far so good.

I would never do that. Obviously depends on personal circumstances but for my DD turning off the wifi at any point could be potentially dangerous

@PassAnotherGlass

What do you mean its potentially dangerous for your DD?

but for my DD turning off the wifi at any point could be potentially dangerous

please tell us more!
Pretty sure nothing like that can apply to most other teenagers.

It’s your house, your wi-fi. Turn it off as and when you wish. Personally for me it would depend on ages, but my child would have to be 16 before I let her make those decisions.

Obviously depends on personal circumstances but for my DD turning off the wifi at any point could be potentially dangerous

Does it run some part of her?

YANBU (unless they are over 18)

How old are they?

We don't have any electronics in bedrooms

Two teenagers , 13 and 16 , phones plugged in downstairs at 7pm

YABU.

My teen DS has a 9pm cutoff for gaming/phone/laptop during school term and midnight for the holidays.

No phones in room after this. If found sneaking on laptop/xbox then grounded for 1 day. This will be extended if there's any drama. He has very rarely broken any of the rules as he learnt early on that I will follow through with consequences.

If I had to I'd remove the xbox and laptop each evening if he continued to ignore the rules.

You are the adult in the house !

@bigchris a 16 year old having to turn their phone in at 7pm? For what reason? If I were them I'd be telling you to jog on.

PolPotNoodle

Unfortunately that’s not how it works when you’re 16. You might think it’s unreasonable but it’s not your electricity being used to charge the phone, not your plug socket, not your wi-fi and probably not your contract.

Does it run some part of her?

I assumed that the PP meant that it ran some medical equipment where someone is monitoring obs remotely.

Or something like severe ASD and the DC uses the internet to stave off anxiety, or something like that.

@PassAnotherGlass can you expand?

@mantarays being 16 doesn't mean you are beholden to your parent's every silly whim. We're not talking about wifi, we're talking about the whole device being effectively inaccessible at 7pm. I most certainly would have pushed back against being controlled at that degree without any justification beyond "it's my house I pay the bills", although I did pay for my own PAYG at that age.

I have a 17 and a 13 year old. Off screens by 10 for the 13 yo, between 12 and 1 am for the 17 yo, no arguments. It's a small house we live in, people gaming to the early hours would keep everyone up. I'm a single parent and it's all been on me for 11 years. They're aware of this and are pretty considerate people and have never complained.

PolPotNoodle

It does, really. Their house, their rules. If my child started talking to me about “silly whims” of mine at that age, they’d find my next silly whim would be stopping giving them any money at all, and if they had their own money they could find somewhere to live. Obviously I would never want it to come to that, but the bottom line is I am in charge in my home, and when my child gets their own home I won’t be telling them what to do in it. 🤷🏻‍♀️

With some wifi you can set it up to block certain devices after a set time. Apparently that's what we do with DSS x-Box as he has no self control so would be up til the early hours otherwise.

I like the idea of withholding WiFi until certain chores are done,for teens.