Can I ask for your positive IVF stories please?

[HopingForAMiracle1]

After years of miscarriages I've had enough and am now on the waiting list for IVF with genetic testing.

I'm trying (and failing a lot of the time) to remain hopeful that one day I'll get my break.

To help me can I hear some of your IVF success stories please? I'm conscious that the success rates are pretty low per round

Sounds tough, OP, sorry for what you've been through.

How old are you? If you're doing genetic testing and they identify the 'good' embryos, the success per transfer should be high. Most IVF is non-tested so it's kind of a lottery if the embryo is any good or not. It's almost all about embryo quality. And success decreases with age as it's basically just a numbers game.

Both of my DC are IVF, as are many children we know. Success rates aren't amazing on paper but it certainly works too. DD was a first time success, DS took a few attempts. I found the process physically fine but it's tough waiting to test, dealing with setbacks etc. Good luck!

Thanks Bear. I am 26 so time is on my side fortunately.

I have a balanced translocation so no problems getting pregnant but need a good embryo hence the PGD.

Thanks for the info!

I had ivf due to no fallopeon tubes and severe endometriosis. My first attempt failed and I was convinced it wasn't meant to be. My dh talked me into one more round. We did everything we could - best diet etc. I still felt absolutely certain it wouldn't work. I have 5 year old twins!

Hi hoping
My little boy is ivf. We had 4 years TTc with 4 miscarriages all around 6-7 weeks.
We paid privately for ivF as NHS wouldn't give it to us as we "had no trouble falling pregnant"
We got 15 eggs, 12 fertilised, one grade A was put back and we have 4 in the freezer. A B and 3 Cs
I was 37 when we did it.

Waiting on a period now after abandoning a frozen cycle due to the medication this time causing too much tissue growth in my uterus, so we can hopefully start again for
No2

IvF went without a hitch

Good luck!! You definitely have your age on your side

Thank you all, you've no idea how much it helps hearing from you.

I'm fortunate (although it doesn't feel it!) as my genetic condition is approved for NHS funding so I'm lucky in that respect.

I just don't know how much longer I can mentally go through the pain.

We had IVF ICSI for our first, due to very severe male factor infertility. We'd been trying without success for four years, all tests on me ok, but DH couldn't bring himself to get checked out for a loooong time. From his diagnosis to the start of our first cycle it was five months, so not long at all and all on the NHS. We had 31 eggs harvested, 20 embryos at day one, 8 by day three and 3 good ones at day five. One was transferred, graded 3BB, the best of the bunch, but not amazing, but I did end up pregnant and he is now nearly eight years old. One of the others survived to day six and is still on ice.

The process itself was hard, but not as hard as I thought it'd be. I think DH had a harder time dealing with my hormonal mood swings. The meds turned me into a moody teenager.

I never, never thought in a million years that it'd work, let alone first time, but it did and by some miracle we ended up with a naturally conceived DS2 less than two years later. The doctors still don't understand how, because DH's count was still at the floor at the time (we were gearing up for round two).

We feel so incredibly lucky.

DH feels a bit hard done by because we thought we'd forever be safe without contraception, but now he's had to have a vasectomy.

The rates of IVF success are also so much higher now than they were back when we went through it. Good luck, you'll get there I'm sure.

Oh, I was 27 at the time we went through it.

I had IVF 25 years ago!

We had been TTC for several years and had had various tests. I was diagnosed with endometriosis which was treated with an operation. However, I was told afterwards that they didn't think it to be severe enough to be the cause. In the end no reason could be found for our failure to conceive so we decided to try IVF.

We went privately because to go through the NHS we would have been waiting another 3 years and I was already in my early 30s by then.

We had one round of IVF. They retrieved 6 or 7 eggs and 3 of them fertilised and were put back. And one succeeded and is now my lovely 24 year old DD!!!

We had IVF ICSI due to severe male factor infertility.
One round of IVF, 2 dc. 11 years on the anxiety of the process is a distant memory.
Just starting half term break with our pair.
I was 31 when we started.
Good luck OP, The stats for 3 cycles are pretty good now.

I had IVF and was lucky first time round with 2 frozen embryos. Ky journey was textbook so feel very lucky.

Good luck with it all, I hope it works out for you.

I did counselling as part of the ivf. She recommended taking up a project that distracts you - something fun but involving. I learned dressmaking. It was a way of taking my head out of the situation.

Thanks again! The waiting list is 4 months so not too long to wait either.

It's all very nerve wracking but also exciting too. I would give my left arm to never have to go through this constant circle of pregnancy and miscarriage. I just want it to be over so we can move on with our lives.

IVF success here - fresh round failed but first frozen transfer worked. Physically it was no problem, I struggled mentally with the desperation of it all, and all the waiting, and the first failure was awful.
Amongst our close friends there are 6 IVF babies.
Wishing you all the luck in the world

We could only afford one attempt at IVF and now my lovely DD is 12. I did everything I could to improve our chances of it working, I lost weight to be in the ideal range before we started and both me and DH ate very healthy and organic for 12 months before the IVF cycle started.

The doctors only gave us a 12% chance of success as I was over 30 and my DH's fertility was the issue so we were very lucky. I think the way they do IVF now has improved your chances. Good luck OP, I'm keeping everything crossed for you.

I’m currently 33 weeks with my first ivf pregnancy. We ttc for 3 years and it honestly nearly broke me. Month after month of disappointment. Turns out we had Male factor infertility and whilst the hoop jumping to get the the actual ivf stage was tough mentally it did feel good to finally have a reason why it wasn’t working.

We we started I felt good and positive like I was taking proactive steps towards having a baby. The process was ok and my clinic were incredible. Bit of a rough time at egg collection and had mild OHSS so had to freeze all. Had a few months off to recover and then had a frozen embryo transfer. The first embryo didn’t survive the thaw so gutted we lost that one that way but the next one did and it took. I feel so incredibly lucky that it worked for us in that way.

I hope it is also successful for you. Something a that really helped me was keeping a journal. Thoughts feelings and general musings. Being extremely open and honest with my DH and him back to me. Researching on what to expect but I like lots of info. Being prepared as much as you can because it’s a rollercoaster.

Wishing you all the luck in the world

Over an 8 year period, I had x8 IVF cycles, which resulted in 5 miscarriages.

My last 2 cycles were IVF/PGD and at 39 years old I’m sitting next to my sleeping 11month old as I write this (I know that’s twee, but I’m still amazed that I get to write that!)

It’s not an easy process, but the rewards are high.

Good luck.

Oh yes sorry things like eating well and exercising also felt good for both me and DH. I wanted to feel like I was in the best possible position to make it work

Good luck! Our second DD is IVF (first was a miracle baby after being on the brink of starting IVF). We paid upfront for a package deal that included 2 cycles and unlimited FET which helped make me feel less stressed about everything riding on one attempt. Dd was the first transfer of the first cycle so we spent loads more than we needed to but no regrets. We got 25 eggs, 20 mature, 19 fertilised, 12 okay by day 3, and 4 in the freezer.

I felt the same as you - the cycle of trying, waiting, hoping and being disappointed was getting me down I felt a lot better once we had decided to commit to IVF because I felt it was now out of our hands and we would have closure whatever way things worked out.

Physically I didn't find it as bad as some people say. The egg collection made me feel pretty sore afterwards but everything else was okay.

Wishing you lots of luck. The fertility board here is supportive if you want to find other women going through a cycle at the same time as you.

BIL and wife have 3 children conceived via IVF.

A single birth and then, 2 years later with stored embryos, twins. She was mid and then late 20s.

I believe they had 1 fail before each success.

Best of luck OP !!! :)

One lot of IVF yielded a number of blastocysts/embryos, implanted twice, successful pregnancy twice. Aged early 30s during IVF, early to mid 30s for the implantation. History of endometriosis, oversized ovarian cysts.

Not cheap or easy. Suffered OHSS while pregnant, lost an ovary, could have been worse than that.

I had one round on the nhs, we got two eggs and both went to blasts however one then stopped. The one which was growing (I never asked the quality as didn’t want to know!) is now a 21 month old toddler who is a delight.
I’m gutted we didn’t get any frozen eggs but I never thought we have one LO after 5 years TTC. I have low AMH so we are luckily the nhs funded us.

I’m sure acupuncture made a huge difference to our success (& my mental health!) the lady I saw was amazing and I recommend her to everyone I know!

Low AMH and messed up tubes here... first round of IVF, 8 eggs collected... my beautiful twins turn three in May!
Wishing you all the luck in the World

OP, did you know there's a subforum for people with fertility issues? It's here: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/infertility

I don't mean to make you feel you shouldn't post in AIBU too, so please don't think that - just thought it might be useful. I've not done IVF yet but there's a lovely community of people who're having fertility treatment on MN and they're really supportive.

Best of luck with your treatment.

Positives on 2nd and 4th cycles with a frozen cycle in between . Sadly the 2nd cycle resulted in a late loss due to previously unknown medical issues with myself but have ds from 4th cycle. All cycles in mid to late 30's. Severe male factor.

Hi,

I'm 26 and 20 weeks pregnant today after our 2nd round of ivf.

I have diminished ovarian reserve.

The first round was long protocol and we only got 5 eggs, 3 matured but they weren't high grade and didn't make it to frozen.

2nd round was short protocol and I took folic acid, vitamin D, co q10 and omega oils 3, 6 and 9. We got 10 eggs all of high quality, one transferred and 4 frozen.

The first round was heartbreaking but I strongly believe that round is trial and error so don't lose hope if it doesn't work first time round.

We also had the embryoscope extra that was offered on both rounds.

Wishing you the best of luck, it is tough but it will be worth it 💐 xx