AIBU over a cut finger?

[Travis1]

So yesterday dh went to watch football with a mate. As a general rule of thumb I don’t message him when he’s out(it’s only 3 hours) unless he texts first about something. Plus horrid weather yesterday meaning freezing cold so also would avoid messaging him so he didn’t need to take his gloves off.

Anyway whilst he’s out I gouged my finger cleaning a champagne flute. Panicked a little because of the flappy skin and blood so messages my little family group chat with a picture so my aunt could tell me if I had anything to worry about(she’s a nurse). She says all good just clean and plaster, enough skin left it’ll take a good few days to heal all good.

When I go to plaster it I go overkill and put a huge plaster on it, find it funny so take a picture complete with petted lip and sent it to my aunt and posted on fb in a ‘fml I’m an idiot’ funny way.

Dh then sees the fb post and has been in a mood with me for not telling him about my cut. Has barely spoken to me since he got home yesterday and didn’t even tell me he’d come home. Scared the shit out of me when I suddenly heard someone in my kitchen. He’d been in, to the toilet, changed and back downstairs without even saying a hello?!

A frosty evening ensued - took him until 9 o’clock to mention dinner and today has been just as bad.

I mean was I really unreasonable to message him
As soon as I cut myself?! I’m genuinely like WTF at the moment.

And I reallllly appreciate how fucking ridiculous this thing is.

*to not message him as soon as I cut myself even 🤦🏻‍♀️

The whole thing is bizarre I don't inform my husband immediately every time I sustain a minor injury in the course of my day!

Exactly! But now I’m annoyed because he’s spoiled our weekend over a bloody cut. I kept trying to talk to him as normal last night and he just sat there with a face on so now I don’t want to try 🤷🏻‍♀️

Did his team lose?!

What a control freak.

@DesLynamsMoustache yeah but that’s par for the course

Oh wow. If you had messaged him flapping (as you put it), that would have been unreasonable, cos you know, adult? he's being beyond ridiculous.

Maybe ask for a list of things that He Must Know First Before Anyone Else Especially Social Media so that you can avoid this happening again

Sorry but you both sound very childish.

Thats very odd.

I don’t see how the OP sounds childish? Her husband does though. What a tit.

Maybe one of his friends saw it on Facebook and they all assumed it was more serious.

@Waiting1987 it was literally me with a big petted kip and plastered finger making a joke about having broken a 9 year old glass that was a wedding present and was it a bad omen ha ha.......turns out it was.

I’m laughing because it’s fucking ridiculous but I’m
annoyed at him pissing on my weekend when I’ve got lots of other shit going on at the moment and we’ve not got another free weekend for about 5/6 weeks now.

It's probably not about the cut finger. It's about you being close to family & going to them first . He resents your closeness to them.

He sounds like an immature controlling arse
Be careful

I just don’t understand the whole “posting every minutiae/mundane detail of your life on fb for attention” thing.

It really wasn't a big issue, but you MADE it a big issue by panicking and involving your aunt and then by posting on SM.
Maybe get yourself on a first aid course so you do not panic in future.

He’s annoyed that you didn’t tell him you’d injured yourself, so he creeps into the house without asking how you are? That is weird behaviour.

Maybe it was the bad omen comment?

Oh he doesn’t actually know I messaged my aunt. He still doesn’t know fully what happened because he’s not had a proper conversation with me since he came home.

I’d saved calories for a meal out today with him and now that’s not happening. Maybe I’m more annoyed because I’m hangry. I could actually cry. I hadn’t had a chance to tell him about a meeting with social workers tomorrow afternoon about my nephew before he started his huff so that’ll be another argument no doubt.

I’m being blasé but I am feeling pretty hurt now.

did his team lose or play badly or something?

Does he always make everything about him?

My other half would want to hear about my flaps but not the one on my finger...

He is being an ass.

@LettertoHermoine he won’t be getting anywhere near those flaps.

We had tickets for a show today. Drove there and back barely uttering a word. I put my bloody make up on and everything for it. I just don’t want to argue. I hate atmospheres like this and can feel my stomach getting all wound up but I can’t trust myself to speak to him now without crying....does anyone else’s body betray them like that? You can’t have an argument or discussion because the tears just come regardless.

Ah yes. The tears of frustration. I hate it. It discredits you and you're not even crying for the reason they think you're crying, it's the built up frustration at the stupidity of it all!

for you OP

I’m really confused as to why he would be annoyed at not knowing about a cut finger. Is he always this difficult?

Could he be annoyed at the bad omen comment?