I don't want me or my child to spend next Christmas at his mums house

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So i'm currently around 7 weeks pregnant and my boyfriends mums side hates me for dumb reasons. I spent my last Christmas there and it was stressful because me and his family just don't get along. It wasn't a good experience. The whole vibe felt fake and forced and I felt like it's a place I really don't enjoy spending my favourite holiday in. I only sacrificed it because my boyfriend really wanted me to be there and I didn't want to upset him. I'm pregnant now and I really don't want to spend my next Christmas there with my child as I don't trust some of his family members and I don't want my child to feel how stressed I am being there. I don't feel comfortable at all with it but he's persistent and offended that I don't want to sacrifice my Christmas feeling uncomfortable. I know it sounds bad but I don't even trust my child there without me. I don't know what to do.

Not a great idea to have a baby with a man (boy?) whose family you can’t stand

Op, you have choices. You can insist on being at home as your own little family next year, you can choose.to visit on Xmas eve or Boxing Day. You could invite his parents to you next year.
Or you.could explain your worries to your dp and have him deal with them for you
But it’s not worth worrying about for the whole year.

Bloody hell! I'd be worrying about a lot more than Christmas! You should very immature, you're going to be tied to these people for a very long time s dc it's not Christmas as it's your favourite holiday you need to worry about!

So is it ok to spend Easter there?

@Bikerider2020

"What most people do in these situations is alternate each year. So if you spent last year with your partner’s family then this year would be spent with yours."
No. Most people dont do that. Some people do that. Some people dont. Once we were married and had children, we had our Christmas at home on our house. Perfectly reasonable to do this. Tell him, you now have a baby and need to stay at home. If he wants to visit them, he can. Depending on how far away from them you are, could he do that in the morning?

Why don’t you relax now and find out how things pan out during your pregnancy. Try to ignore their annoying behaviour and act as friendly as you can. It could be that you are excluded from some conversations because they relate to his family/happenings connected to people he knows and you don’t. I remember this happening to me but it wasn’t intended as a slight. From my experience of a long life I would suggest that it is never worth responding to things said within a family that you find upsetting as the bad feeling gets out of proportion and can extend far beyond the memory of what is said. Keep happy, smile a lot when you are there and be interested in them. Many bridges can be built that way. You might even invite his parents to your home next Christmas! You might even find a support you hadn’t expected. Meanwhile be happy and plan your little one’s arrival with your boyfriend.

Well if you spent last Christmas there and you will have just had a baby next year don't go to his family's house this year. He doesn't get to dictate Christmas plans every year. Maybe start a tradition of a quiet family Christmas day at home and do visits Boxing day.

YABU in the sense You’re 7 weeks pregnant and it’s February.... looks like your trying to pick a fight.

Hello I completely understand your situation I'm in a similar position and to plan Christmas early on is a smart thing to do. Don't listen to the horrible advice some people have put on here. Keep the baby and spend it with your family with or without your partner. That's my plan anyway :). And like you the in laws dont respect me, they ignore me too and interrupt me alot. I'm respected by everyone I know except them, but I won't change to please them or pander to thier wants and needs at all.

Invite them to yours for an allocated time slot. Then turf them out when their time is up. Think of getting an egg timer and put it on the table, you might get great delight out of shouting "time's up! Out you go!!"
Another suggestion is to book a holiday abroad for Christmas. When the baby is born, you could surprise your bf with telling him about the trip. (Make it remote/up hill/somewhere they're not able to visit).