To think that this is inappropriate to say in front of me ?

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Met yesterday with 2 friends who are engaged to be married, a close female friend and her fiancé.
I asked them if they had done anything nice for Valentine's day and they replied that it had just been a night in, then the guy said "She didn't even put out." in the middle of a restaurant.
Just felt embarrassed for my friend, it's not something that needed to be said out loud nor any of my business really.

Totally depends on whether it was said in jest or a dig. Would have been laughed at as a joke coming from anyone I know.

You are being weird and uptight. Get a sense of humour.

@WinterCat thanks thought as much. Certainly isn’t something I’ve heard before. Is it an American ism?

Depends on how it was said and what sort of relationship they have.

this is definitely a throwaway comment we'd make in our friendship group. I'd laugh if my partner made it about me, and he wouldn't mind if I said it about him.

I WOULDN'T make that joke if we were actually having issues in our sex life, and in that context I'd also be upset if DP said it. So it really depends if it seemed like a passive aggressive dig or made in good humour. I wasn't there.

It really depends on their relationship, your friend's sense of humour and how she felt about it.

It's something me and OH would easily joke about and that's all that it would be, however in my friend's marriage that would definitely be a passive aggressive dig.

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It could just be their sense of humour.

Did your friend look embarrassed? If so, I would find it a bit awkward otherwise I would just laugh it off.

Depends on their humour. Wouldn’t bother me

Without knowing her reaction it's impossible to judge.

It’s such a minor joke.

you've massively overthought a jokey throw away comment, most prople would have just laughed and forgotten about it.

Just a different sense of humour. I would have laughed if I had been the friend or the fiance of the guy.

I would of laughed. It’s just their sense of humour.

I would have looked him dead in the eye and said, "I don't blame her."

Follow up with a hearty slap on the back and some manly guffawing.

YABU as it sounds your making somethng of nothing. It your friend was obviously embaressed/upset thats one thing but you don,t say that.

Never heard of this phrase. I wondered if it meant she didnt try to put up any resistance!!

I hate the phrase, but ex's friends have this sense of humour and great timing/delivery. It's not shocking or embarrassing because it was always expected with them. The woman gave as good as she got.

It's very awkward if it's not the usual humour and he just blurted it out. Could have also been a dig at her and chance to embarrass her but cover it up as a joke. Depends how she responded.