To be annoyed that my friend keeps bragging about how many gifts and how much money she’s been given for their baby

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We’re both pregnant at the same time, literally less than a week between us. She knows that my husband and I have had to buy literally everything ourselves as our families are not in a position to support us financially which is completely fine by us, we never expected any financial help and we’re lucky to receive so much emotional support from them instead.

But my friend will not stop telling me how much money and gifts they’ve been given from their friends and family and how much money they’ve not had to spend as a result and I’m just finding it all a bit annoying really! It’s wonderful that they have so much help but is there a particular need to rub my nose in it quite so much. It’s virtually every day now. I can’t even chat to her about something mundane like the fact that I’m sorting clothes out this weekend for little one and she has to point out what a nightmare its been to try and organise all the hundreds of clothes they’ve been gifted.
There’s nothing wrong with receiving help and support but aibu to think its a bit vulgar to keep bragging about it when she knows that we haven’t had any help?

I understand OP - I have a friend like this and we had babies v close together. Every conversation when we were pregnant (and since the babies arrived) has somehow made its way around to how much stuff they’ve been bought for the baby, how much money they’ve been given, how much the baby has in her savings account. I was even taken up to the nursery before baby was born and was shown everything in all the drawers and cupboards that has been bought for them 🙄. This was knowing that I’d had lots of scares through my (much longed for and long awaited) pregnancy and didn’t buy anything until late on for that reason.

I find people who boast unnecessarily like that are usually insecure about something or other and are doing it to make themselves feel better.

Of course everyone thinks their first child is a saviour of the world, most amazing godlike being ever. Their smiles are most amazing. Their burps are cute. They poop so well. If they get presents from other people it's confirmation of same. With all the hormones to trick mum to be devoted to a baby so a baby has a chance to survive, you can't blame mother, it's natural.
It might be annoying for anyone who never had a child but most others understand.
It will change with time and subsequent children.
I'll just listen and be glad for mother and child.

This would drive me mad. She will get a shock when more than likely, the gifts mostly stop for child two and three!

Poor you. As other pp's have said, it's going to get really unbearable when the babies are born. It'll be a race for babies milestones, parenting techniques, who's baby sleeps through first-or doesn't, who's got it easier- or harder....endless and it'll continue all through the nursery/school years with achievement levels etc.
I'd take a small step back now and try not to enter into the competition.

She might just be excited to tell you her news and doesn’t read realise that you feel she is boastful. I sometimes over talk in situations to do with my children , I really hope my friends just think I’m a proud mum rather than rubbing other people’s noses in it.im delighted when my friends tell me amazing news about their children or things that have happened in their lives.

Jealousy is a horrid trait.

If she continues like this......darling baby sat up today at 2 months old, said first word at 9 months, running a marathon at 2..... etc, then drop her. Unless it's your baby doing these things!