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To not give her the blanket?

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34steps · 15/02/2020 21:01

Trivial one but with some background - I want to know if others think I'm being too harsh. At wits end with DD and looking for perspective/advice.

DD is in reception. Doing ok at school but at home we're massively struggling with her behaviour. Moans/shouts/tantrums 24/7, often to the point of complete hysteria. Today I was doing some sewing and she came to see, then pulled some bits of material ouut of my pile and wanted me to make her a dolls blanket. I did it, spent ages picking out colours embroideting it etc. After it was done she wanted to put some badges on it but had lost one (she'd dropped it on floor). So she started shouting, 'go away, horrible blanket'. I said fine, and took it away. Cue an hour of epic meltdown.

My dilemma now is, do I give it to her? I said I wouldn't because I'd spent over an hour on it and she was so rude, but I made it just for her and it seems mean. Not to drip feed but this silliness was on the back of several other times today (and for lots if other days before) when I've tried to be nice to her and the moment things haven't gone her way she's been really nasty - shouting things, hitting her sister, that sort of stuff

I don't know, what would anyone else do? This kind of stuff just seems to go on and on, all day every day, and I try to be consistent with meaning what I say but part if me is starting to wonder if being too consistent is just keeping us all in this cycle of crapness

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Bringmewineandcake · 15/02/2020 21:06

Give it to her. Have you just broken up for half term? She might still be struggling to adjust to school life.

Daftodil · 15/02/2020 21:09

Maybe make a reward chart and she can earn it back if she gets 5 stars or something (eg. Star for playing nicely with her sister/putting her toys away etc)

Bluewater1 · 15/02/2020 21:09

Yes give her the blanket. She's very young and probably exhausted from the end of term and this is how it is coming out

ittakes2 · 15/02/2020 21:12

Parenting courses always recomended giving children another chance if they have amended their behaviour

34steps · 15/02/2020 21:12

Good idea @Daftodil, I'll do that - a good compromise. I'm so tired by it all I've just forgotten how to think sideways!

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