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Jobhell · 15/02/2020 17:09

Posting for traffic sorry!

I started a new job a couple of months ago and I absolutely HATE it. I feel really unsupported, like a fish out of water. I feel really alone at work. It's a really bitchy environment. I feel like I've made a massive mistake Sad

I think that before just resigning I should speak to my manager about how I'm feeling but how do I go about this?? I don't want to insult her company which she'll obviously be proud of.

Please help Sad feeling so miserable and lost.

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Jobhell · 15/02/2020 18:28

Anyone?

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Dinomom52 · 15/02/2020 18:37

Unsupported how? If you’re going to have a chat can you phrase it constructively?

Sorry. Someone else will hopefully be along with better advice?

Quicknamechange7 · 15/02/2020 18:43

Apparently it takes about six months to adjust to a new job. Apart from one role (and I've had way too many jobs), I've hated them all at the start then once I've found my way around the systems etc I've actually quite enjoyed them. A couple of jobs I threw in the towel early on and frankly I regretted it for CV and financial reasons, but at the time I felt absolutely trapped and hated the environment. If I were you, I'd give it at least 90 days then see what you think,

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Jobhell · 15/02/2020 18:46

@Dinomom52 thank you for replying. Unsupported in that I've just been left to sink or swim in an area of work I basically no nothing about. Obviously I don't want to put it like this to my manager so posted on here to see if people could suggest how to approach this with management.

@Quicknamechange7 I have been thinking I should give it six months. I just wish I could feel a bit better now, literally feel so unhappy all day every day at work. And then when i get home I just feel crap about having to go back again the next day.

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Dinomom52 · 15/02/2020 21:27

Sounds hard. Can you try to ask for some feedback about that piece of work or say you’re unsure & could use some guidance/tips/extra training?

alwayscoffee · 15/02/2020 22:09

I’d tell your manager that you like feeling you are doing a great job but you aren’t getting that sense of satisfaction because you don’t feel you are up to speed/fully understand how the company works/other description of what “feeling supported” means to you. Ask if it would be possible to have a weekly informal catch up for you to ask any questions that have come up in the week/check your understand of things. Or ask for the specific things that will help you.
I’ve been a manager for decades and still struggle supporting new staff because I know they are capable and I don’t want to micromanage them. I’ve had feedback from some new staff that they love this but others have told me they feel unsupported. It’s really common for people to feel like you are and the manager to think the person is doing fine.

Good luck sorting it. I think it’s probably your discomfort being in a new environment. If you ask for help and don’t get it then it’s a problem with the company and it would then be right to consider if you want to stay there.

LIZS · 15/02/2020 22:11

Do you have any probation period or review process. Could you request one?

Darbs76 · 15/02/2020 22:12

Speak to your manager and be honest. Ask them for extra help. If they still don’t support you then I’d start looking for another job

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