To be annoyed guys are pushy to meet up OLD?

[Ginbunny1212]

Been OLD for a while. Normally process is match, chat in app for a few days, if normal and flow of chat, swap numbers. Tend to chat via WhatsApp for a few days, again for flow of conversation, interests etc, then arrange to meet up. Chat is Prescreening to see if we click. I hate guys who chat for weeks on end without arranging a meet up. Not in it for gaining pen pals.

However, I have noticed a trend where I match and within a few messages the guys are arranging to meet up, mostly that night or next day. Politely say to them let’s get to know each other (as most oddities comes out during chatting), but they are really pushy. Even had a guy demand to see me as we are here to meet matches. It’s very off putting and I feel this is a red flag.

This seems to have increased massively. Is this a new trend? Am I the odd one out feeing uneasy that within 2 messages a guy wants to meet up?

They'll be the ones that are looking to shag and run.

The guys that chat for weeks on end have wifes.

The guys that want to meet up immediately what to shag.

On line dating is the pitts.

Yeah I don’t like that either. Or anyone who has “not looking for a penpal” or similar on their profile. If they don’t realise that a bit of chat is important pre screening they are idiots. If they do realise and want to skip the step any way they are something worse!

I disagree. The ones who want to meet soon are less likely to be married time wasters who will string you along for a bit of ego boosting flirting.

I read an article that said aim to meet up within a few days to see you are not being cat fished and that's when you start trying to get to know someone, not to invest in a stranger for weeks!

I used to actual have a phone convo

Weedled loads out like that

The ones that want to meet soon could be love bombers so definite red flag for me.

And if you say you want to wait before meeting but they insist on meeting, then run a mile as they will be controlling. A decent man will not fircectge issue.

*force

It is all a game.
There are those who want to chat endlessly and it goes nowhere.
There are those that disappear.
Then there are those that send one message and then next thing want your number because it is easier to chat via whatsapp, I do not see the difference...it is still an app.
It is full of crazy's out there.

I disagree too. Don't want to chat and get asked "How was your day?"

If I could meet same day I would.

I'm not looking or a quick shag, just don't want to waste my time texting shit.

All I need to know before exchanging numbers for WhatsApp is what they're looking for, where they live, (anything over 45 minutes forget it) and whether they hide their online status on WhatsApp.Hiding online status is a huge red flag for me and won't be meeting them.

From online texting to messaging on WhatsApp, then phone conversation.

There's only been a few I've weeded out from telephone conversation.

Then meet within the week. If they can't meet soon then I don't text and say when you're back or able, drop me a text. Not interested what they were up to at the weekend.

My first "date" is nearly always a coffee, for an hour. I know some women like to screw their date out of a free meal but the thought of being stuck with someone I don't fancy for a meal, isn't my thing. Plus I never let my date pay for full thing.

If we like each other at coffee then we have a real "date".

But everyone's different and if somebody wants to meet you right away and you're not comfortable with it. Then they're not for you.

Similarly if someone said to me they they'd rather wait a while before meeting, well that kind of person isn't for me.

The whole point is trying to meet someone that clicks with you. Neither is right or wrong.

:)