To think my ex is going to rip me off?

[billyelliott]

Me and my ex broke up 4 weeks ago.
We were meant to see the stereophonics at the 02 arena next month.
It was going to be uncomfortable so my ex said she would buy my ticket off me and take her friend.
So she said post the ticket and il let you know when I get it and pay you( bank transfer )
I posted the ticket on Monday and it arrived Tuesday but she didn't collect till yesterday morning.
She hasn't messaged to say she has received it and she hasn't put any money in my bank.
I have a feeling she will just keep it and not pay.
I trusted her that's why I posted it without the money.
I spent £7 on delivery too.
Do I wait ? Or message her and ask if she is paying for it?

You shouldn't have sent it before you had the money, bit late now though. We don't know her so can't answer whether she'll pay you back or not

It just seemed very formal asking her for the money first as if she was a total stranger.
I just have a bad feeling as by then end of our relationship she showed a not so pleasant side.

Just message saying you've seen it's been collected and give her your bank details.

She already has my bank details.
It's just making me worry as it's 24 hours since she collected it.

Message her to remind her that you sent the tickets in good faith. I'd also ask for postage costs.

Who actually broke it off? That will likely give you your answer as to what happens next.

I found out she was texting a few other girls behind my back.
I kicked off and she ended it.
She turned quite nasty but I just wanted to draw a line under it.
I bought the tickets through ticketmaster on my C/C so I could always say I lost them and get replacements so I don't loose out ..but I don't want to do that.

I've sent her a message.
She's read it and not replied.

Send he a message and say if you haven’t had the money within 24 hours you will be reporting the tickets as stolen to ticketmaster and getting replacements

I have a horrible feeling she isn't going to pay.
I can't believe she would do this.
I wish I told her now she could just have it,rather than feeling humiliated when she doesn't pay.

Tell her unless she pays you will cancel the tickets.

I was going to asvise what @BrieAndChilli has, it’s the best way you can guarantee you get the money or the tickets.

Just ask her for the money. If it’s not forthcoming in another 24 hours then cancel the tickets or report as stolen and get duplicates. Then you go with someone. I also wouldn’t tell her what I have done, let her go to the expense of travelling there and the embarrassment of not being able to get in.

@BrieAndChilli I have just sent that message thanks.

It's the no contact that makes me worry.
If she had just messaged saying she had received it and would pay next week etc
It's the no contact which makes me think she will attempt to pull a fast one

I think she will.
Unless you cancel them as you have messaged you will.

And if she does message and tries to get you to accept her paying after the concert , my advice is refuse. Cancelling the tickets is your only leverage. After she's been you have nothing

I’d just call ticketmaster, you’ve no hope of getting that money. Bit daft to not get payment first.

She must never have gave a shit about me to do that
So sneaky

@BogOffJanuary any any other circumstance I would totally have got the money before posting.
With it been a ex and someone I've loved /been close too up until a month ago..I didn't even think about it.

Just report them as stolen and get new tickets. Let her turn up and be turned away, sounds like she deserves it.

She ignored that message too.
I've been so stupid haven't I

Naïve and too trusting maybe.

I'd cancel the tickets now. Sod her.

Ok you weren't stupid, you were trusting.

Time now to report them as stolen and block this woman. I wouldn't bother telling her you've reported them stolen. If her money lands in your bank account (very unlikely) then you can sort things then.

It doesn't look good OP. I would just cancel the tickets.