To let DH do all the cooking

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Just wanted to get people's opinions on whether I'm being unreasonable to let DH do all the cooking. I hate cooking, he loves it. We get home from work and I love nothing better than catching up with DS and getting him ready for bed, while he walks straight into the kitchen and starts thinking about dinner (normally after washing up from the night before.) This really seems to work for us but I seem to get so much judgement from other people, especially as I'm part time while he works full time. It surprises me how many people think I should have tea on the table for him when he gets home from work on my days off. Just for a bit of background, I do all the other housework and I don't think he has ever cleaned a bathroom or skirting board in his life. So, aibu... If he enjoys it, should I just let him do it or should I start taking this on instead?

Dh does 80% of all food buying, planning and preparing in our house. He works full time, I work part time.
I do plenty of other things he doesn't do and I bet you do too.

Do whatever works for you, why are you listening to other people? Or telling them .

If cooking is the only chore he does then he should do it all. Food prep too.

I’m the cook, DH doesn’t do it here. He does other stuff. As long as it feels fair and there are takeaways or restaurants when he can’t do it again all is well.

Who thinks you should have tea on the table for him when he gets home? Have they said why?

As long as your DH is happy - which he clearly is - and you are pulling your weight in terms of the other domestic load, what on earth has it got to do with anyone else?

Yanbu but does he get to spend any time with your DS during the week if he works full time and goes straight into the kitchen when he gets home, whilst you go through the bedtime routine?

Why don’t you ask your DH if he happy to cook?

As long as you both feel you have a fair allocation of responsibilities/tasks and are happy with that it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks.

YANBU.
I do laundry for me and the kids, childcare drop-offs and pick-ups on my days that I'm not away with work, household admin and finances, mental load for kids' parties and nursery requirements etc and holiday bookings.
He does meal planning, shopping and cooking (though I keep an eye on general groceries and household stuff), bins, DIY, gardening and most driving (similar to cooking, I don't enjoy it and I'm not good at it ), he's tidier than me too and keeps me away from loading the dishwasher .
Total partnership and we both try to do at least our fair share most of the time which means very little resentment.

My husband does all the cooking.

I have zero interest - he loves it.

I’m a stay at home parent and my partner works. I do cook but I would say he cooks more often. I dislike cooking, he enjoys it.

If your husband doesn’t mind doing so let him carry on.

In this house often Oh will cook, I always clean up (he never does the dishes) whilst he bathed the children before bed.

DH does all the shopping and 90% of the cooking, always has. He works shifts and is home at least 2hrs earlier than me. Although leaves 2hrs earlier in the morning.

It has just always worked this way (21 years in). I obviously do the lions share of other tasks.

Judgement is great, especially from DHs elderly aunts... makes no difference to us

So he does cooking but you do other house work. Well if it works for you it,s noones beeswax is it.

Do what works for you and YOUR family. Is your OH happy? Have you discussed it with him? Do you do all the dishes afterwards or does he do that also?

I enjoy cooking, and do the majority, but OH cooks more on weekends or if I work a later in the evening. Generally if one cooks, the other washes up, but its not set in stone.

Who gives a fuck about other people's judgment if it's working for you and everyone's happy?

I certainly don't!

My dh cooks every meal except on mondays.

They’re probably jealous! Let him crack on.

Only thing I'd judge you both on is leaving the night before's washing up until the next evening

I hate cooking and am not that great at it, but DH is a fantastic cook and enjoys it, so he does it all (well 99.9%), but I do washing/ironing/cleaning and so on, for me its a win win and it works for us

If your both happy with the arrangement and it works for your family , then it doesn’t matter what other people think , I like it when my Dh cooks as I must admit he is a better cook than me

DH cooks quite a few of the meals during the week and most of the ones at the weekend, even when I was a SAHM. He enjoys cooking and it relaxes him. What we sometimes do is that I prep all the ingredients and then he does the actual cooking.

Same here my partner does 90% of the cooking - he enjoys it I don't and he's much better at it than me. I do try to cook once a week on my day off (I only work 4 days he does 5) so he gets a bit of a break but it's normally something simple and nowhere near as nice as when he does it - works for us and no one has ever said they didn't think it was right - most of my friends are pretty jealous actually

Oh yes, I do everything else around the house. It's basically just his mum and my grandparents that think I should take it over. It comes up in conversation because people seem to talk about what they cook alot and I am always a bit embarrassed to say he does it. I did slimming world recently and he really enjoyed finding the meals etc, although he wasn't a fan of fry light... He is very happy doing it, it's basically his kitchen and I just leave him to sort it as he likes it. I think I'm just going to stop worrying about it as we don't have any resentment and it seems to just work.

He does spend time with ds the days I work as he finishes much earlier than me and does the nursery pick up, so they get about an hour together before I get home

I don't think it's unreasonable he does all the cooking - but the washing up from the night before too? We have one cooks, the other clears up. To be honest I'd hate dishes left dirty for a day - yuk!!