To think my "friend" doesn't actually Like me?

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20 years ago when I was 18 I met a girl,il call her "Kelly" and we became friends.
At first we got on great and then things started to change.
She would make sly comments,didn't Like my outfits or she would say I was over dressed.
Then the week later she would be wearing the same thing.
Then she met a guy and got married ,I started dating her husbands friend.
She would started to text him a lot and her husband told her to stop.
The guy I was dating found it weird.
Then 6 months later he cheated on me and dumped me for this girl....she knew he was cheating,then she added the girl to her Facebook and became friends with her.
Every time she seen him she would ring me and say "ah I've seen (him) today and we had a lovely chat,he's looking well"
If we were in a group of friends,she would try and make me the but of her joke.
Try and make me look stupid any way possible.
Then I was on a date with a guy and ran into her and she tried to start dancing with him.
That's just a few examples ...
Does she hate me?
I've never been anything but nice to her.

I’m not sure why you have maintained the friendship for so long, she sounds like a twat.

She is jealous of you in some way and is also a nasty vindictive bully. Ghost her now. She is no good for your mental health or self esteem

We haven't spoke in two months.
I've totally cut her off
I want nothing more to do with her.
I'm surprised I've stuck her so long.

I don't know if she hates you but she sounds like she is not a loyal friend so I wouldn't trust her or spend much time with her.

I would have dumped her at the first sly comment 20 years ago!

You're 38 now OP why you are entertaining this shit.

Block her on everything and move on!

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Glad to hear that OP

She's insanely jealous of you. Be it your looks, personality, style, wit - or could be anything.
Putting you down and trying to make you sad makes her feel better about herself.
You've got something she covers.

Covets

She isn’t a friend. I’ve no idea why she dislikes you but she is not someone you want or need in your life. Get rid.

She is jealous of you. Absolutely the reason. Telling you you're over dressed in short term is, you look better than me.

Sorry about your ex, any friend knows you see a friends ex, you report back he looks like shit and the girl he cheated on you with is not a patch on you. It's the unwritten rule.

You're doing the right thing. Wouldn't put it past her to try and steal your man.

I've watched many friends of hers come and go over the years.
She can only be fake for so long then her Mask slips.
I'm so much happier without her.
It just makes me question what I did wrong to her.
I don't think il ever know.

You didn't do anything wrong; that's just the way she is.

Why would you allow such toxicity in your life? Delete all avenues of contact and move on. Whatever her reasons for treating you like shit it’s time to say enough is enough.

She’s a plain and simple gobshite.

You’re well rid.

She doesn’t hate you, she hates her life and what she doesn’t have/isn’t able to sustain.

You're best off without her in your life.

Glad that you have moved on from such a toxic "friendship."

Yeah I think your right,she's just a toxic person.

Classic frienemy I've had a few of those over the years just fuck her off.

She sounds jealous to me. You're much better off without all that unpleasantness.

You think tho there's enough nastiness around without turning on your friends.
It's a shame.

It is not and never has been about you.
She sounds like someone who makes herself feel good by putting other women down.

Has she ever treated male friends like this or is this behaviour reserved for female friends?

The fact that you stuck by her so long actually makes you a nice person who tries to see the best in people, especially when other people dumped her long ago.
She has the issues, not you but definitely time to completely let go. What a sad person she is that has to run down others to make herself feel better.

It's only really me and this other woman who are quite quiet and pushovers (I guess you could say)
She wouldn't do it to her gobby friends.