To think this was an overreaction

[savethestars]

To scream NO NO NO OH PLEASE GOD NO top volume because a 13 year old got a detention for a very minor reason?

This is very odd.

Depends on the context and as you've given us nothing at all, YABU.

Are you the teacher?
Pretty unprofessional to complain on here.

And bloody uncaring to both the parent and the child.

People like you shouldn't be in the profession.

Why do people make comments like that

Where was it?
Who was able to hear it?
Sounds like a mum at the end of her tether if you ask me.

When my DD gets detentions I just ask her why and make sure she serves her punishment. If it was something worth screaming about I'm sure the school would get in touch like they do about every bloody little thing

It was my mum, I’m finding it all so hard to talk about. Years ago now. I’m not a child.

If it was years ago, why post about it now. It was just a detention, not a court appearance.

Well I thought your question made perfect sense and no, I don’t think that reaction is ever reasonable for a detention.

Not even if the family have no money.
Not even if it is the straw that broke the camel’s back.
Not for anything.

And I was thinking it was now, and the overreaction from someone who watches too much YouTube.

It was my mum, I’m finding it all so hard to talk about. Years ago now. I’m not a child

What's brought it up now? Did it affect you that badly??

Because people get exasperated with weird vague threads where the poster can't just ask a question like a normal person and then all of a sudden we're the mad ones.
Had you posted "when I was a child my mother screamed about me getting a detention for not having my ingredients" you'd have got normal replies.

Have you been to the Sistine Chapel recently to scream at the Michaelangelo?

Seriously though, any parent acting like that is a twat. Child forgot cooking ingredients. Child has to suffer the consequences as the school cannot supply them all of the time. Perhaps child has made a habit of forgetting important stuff so that they cannot take full part in a lesson, be it cookery or any other. That type of detail has not been given, but would be relevant.

Ok.
I take it back. Not the teacher.

Your mum was obviously having a hard time / bad day / last straw that broke camels back.
Stop holding it against her.

Are you so perfect?
Parenting is hard.

When your child gets punished for something that's your fault or you can't help eg money's too tight / couldn't get to shop / everything too overwhelming and you forgot - then it can make you feel very guilty and self loathing.
Forgive her and stop being a knob.

If it was your own mother, and years ago, then what has triggered this reaction now? Unless you are a child currently on half term (some schools are, though most are not until next week) and poking around for some fun.

Totally agree with your post Tombliwho.

Why is it affecting you now OP ??

I think I get it.

OP’s mum, several years ago, reacted to her detention by screaming. OP is now thinking about it as part of a wider problem and realising that this along with other things wasn’t a ‘normal’ rection from her parent.

Am I right?

Do you have a child of a similar age and thinking about how you would react now in a situation like this?

Yes babble

I don’t know what a nervous breakdown feels like but I think I’m having one

If you are having problems with your mental health, your GP is a good place to go for help.

Have you got someone in RL you can talk to @savethestars?

Thanks ikl and purple

I don’t really - I’m sure I’ll be Ok. I’m struggling with memories and with knowing what happened and what I remember - it’s really hard to tell whether maybe she WAS just at the end of her tether or part of a really severe MH problem? I don’t know (and she’s dead anyway so can’t talk about it.) so asked on here.

That parent would have a mental breakdown if they were me. Mines had so many detentions that I assume they’re normal punishment now

Sorry OP, just seen your updates and my post seems quite inappropriate. No offence intended

I’m not offended at all, at least you didn’t call me a twat

Op I also apologise. I've lost my mum too.

She was probably suffering with MH issues. I lot of people do.
Parenting is hard.
Please try to forgive her.

Speak to your GP if there's no one else x

It helped me to write everything down as much as I remembered, put it away for a couple of days then read it again. Try and see your GP if you can - don't think you have to struggle alone. You really don't.