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Interfering mum

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Yummymummy2020 · 14/02/2020 11:02

So unfortunately in order to secure a mortgage we have had to move back in with my mum Temporarily. We are paying rent, albeit less than if we rented a house to ourselves in the area(but then, we are not having a house for just us we are sharing)doing our share of cleaning and also buying making our own food ect.Our baby is luckily easy going,(nearly 2 months old) dosent cry much in the night as we tend to wake with her sucking her fist before it gets to that and we are out the majority of the day so overall I would consider us quite handy tennents. Here’s the issue, my mum is passing comment on everything she can in a negative way , which is driving us mad as new parents we are doing our best and not a bad job at that, and also she is coming in constantly when we are feeding the baby or putting her to sleep to play with her which means she stops feeding and is hard to settle then. She also affords us no privacy at all, she just walks in any time sometimes early in the morning or late at night and wakes us all up! She also tells everyone all our business so I have had to stop sharing medical information ect with her about my health. Another thing she keeps doing is rooting through our things for example when we got home she opened our baby gifts before we could and picks up things in the bedroom to read them or look at them which drives me mental!Would I be completely unreasonable to tell her to stop interfering or am I being cheeky when she is good to let us stay for cheaper rent temporarily? We are trying to get a move on with our savings and renting else where would mean we can’t save at all so it is an option but one we would like to dodge if possible! How is the best way to deal with it without being hurtful or rude? I already have been snappy a few times and am avoiding her at the moment in order to avoid doing it! I know the best solution is to just move out again but this isn’t possible for a while and I’m not sure if it’s me just being mean!

OP posts:
Whynosnowyet · 14/02/2020 11:03

Get a rubber door stop. Jam it under the door when you are in your bedroom..

Yummymummy2020 · 14/02/2020 11:17

@whynosnowyet ha ha I’ll have to invest in one and see will that work 😂😂😂

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abstractprojection · 14/02/2020 11:19

Arrrr I feel your pain. I think you’re going to have to suck a lot of it up, but put your foot down on the things that really matter like playing with the baby when you’re trying to feed and settle.

Twinkletoes888 · 14/02/2020 11:20

We live with an elderly relative and she’s the same. Gossips etc, I don’t tell her what’s wrong with me anymore because she’s tell everyone and anyone which is bloody annoying.

I don’t have a solution but I do avoidance because I will end up loosing my mind lol, I feel your pain and you have my sympathy WineCake

kim1856 · 14/02/2020 11:30

This sounds like the most annoying thing ever.

I think you'll have to say something. I think this sort of behaviour only gets worse. I thought my MIL was bad, but this is another level.

Good luck 😩

Bloomburger · 14/02/2020 11:40

Tell her you're going to start shagging again, you've really missed it an DP was a 3 times a night and in the early mornings kinda guy.

EL8888 · 14/02/2020 15:00

I know it’s her house but she still needs to show some respect. Being brutal but she’s being rather rude and invasive. A lot of these manoeuvres are the kind of things my mum would do 🙈. She’s the kind of person who if you are staying for the weekend, would launch herself into the bedroom without knocking at 6am as she wants something out of a draw. Normal people would plan ahead and get it the night before or wait until you get up but not her!

This is the thin end of the wedge and l think you need to set your stall out. What does your DP make of all of this? Your baby = your rules and age needs to learn this

EL8888 · 14/02/2020 15:01

@Bloomburger love it!

EL8888 · 14/02/2020 15:01

Age = she

WinterCat · 14/02/2020 15:05

I’d move out. It’ll probably just get worse.

redwoodmazza · 14/02/2020 15:17

My late mother used to be really nosey. She would pick up and read birthday cards and Christmas cards. I hated that - so used to hide them before she arrived! I feel they are private - like a letter would be.
She also showed some of her 'friends' around our house when we were away on holiday. Didn't ask or anything. WTF???

atomicblonde30 · 14/02/2020 15:36

I’d put a bolt on the door to be honest, won’t help when you’re out but at least you’d have privacy for when you’re home.

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