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To avoid social media other than MN because I can't face seeing all the Valentine's Day posts?

26 replies

Bluewater1 · 14/02/2020 07:27

Still reeling from the ending of my marriage. Just thinking I need to stay off FB today to avoid seeing people's lovey dovey posts about love.....is it just me?

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letmepeeinpeace · 14/02/2020 07:38

Same here. Also resisting --stalking checking the OW Facebook to see how ex and her are celebrating

letmepeeinpeace · 14/02/2020 07:39

Strike through fail!

wapbapboo · 14/02/2020 07:40

Flowers I hadn't realised it was Valentine's Day, load of commercial shite anyway.

You are best off staying off for a week as you would still see posts tomorrow. Or unfollow the people you know go over the top.

Do what you need to do, have your own self-love weekend.

Sirzy · 14/02/2020 07:41

If it makes today easier then do it!

Although don’t forget most of the lovely Dovey shite comes from people who are infact far from happy in the relationship and it’s all for show.

LionelRitchieStoleMyNotebook · 14/02/2020 07:41

You are best off staying away if that's what you'll see, I'm not sure what it says about my friends but I won't see a single valentine's post!

TheTrollFairy · 14/02/2020 07:42

Valentine’s Day is bull crap and I find the people who are overly lovey on social media are the ones who don’t have a particularly good relationship in real life (this is my view only if relationships around me, not everyone in general). I find the whole day a bit weird to be honest with you.

Maybe I’m just a miserable old cow

EnidBlyton · 14/02/2020 07:43

it is everywhere, google, emails, on the radio.meh

VisionQuest · 14/02/2020 07:43

Do people actually post lovey dovey valentines shite on FB?! ConfusedGrin
How tragic!

RickOShay · 14/02/2020 07:44

Agree with @Sirzy
The only couples Valentine post I’ve seen today I know for a fact the husband has had an affair.
It’s not all what it seems.

OLP2019 · 14/02/2020 07:44

Honestly it's all a load of wank anyway ! And I'm married ! Always seems those who "celebrate" it the hardest are those with something to prove !
I'm finding some of the gushing displays of "love" embarrassing!!
I'd rather have a take away and a bottle of wine - on my own; with a mate or with my husband if he's around but it's not a special day it's a contrived day so don't feel sad or bad xx

fizzymango · 14/02/2020 07:45

Yep, me. Last year me and DP had hugely mismatched expectations and I was the one left disappointed. He isn’t a gifty person anyway so I shouldn’t have really expected anything more. So This year I suggested we don’t bother at all and I don’t want to see other people being all happy and spoilt.

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Bluewater1 · 14/02/2020 07:46

@VisionQuest
Yep, popped on FB, very first post I say, flicked straight back off it Hmm

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Bluewater1 · 14/02/2020 07:46

Saw

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fizzymango · 14/02/2020 07:47

I think the way I feel today is just magnifying other problems anyway rather than it being about v day specifically

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Bluewater1 · 14/02/2020 07:48

@OLP2019
You are so right, it's a contrived day. So commercial too

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MysweetAudrina · 14/02/2020 07:52

You will be safe on mn because it will be mostly full of posts from people disappointed with their partners so you can at least glean some happiness from their misery.

Brazi103 · 14/02/2020 07:54

Although don’t forget most of the lovely Dovey shite comes from people who are infact far from happy in the relationship and it’s all for show.

I agree with this to some extent. The happiest marriages I know are those people who are barely active on SM and never do lovey lovey posts.

ShatnersWig · 14/02/2020 07:56

Singles Awareness Day

puds11 · 14/02/2020 07:57

When I was single on Valentine’s Day I used to go get the M and S valentines meal deal and eat it myself Grin Loved Valentine’s Day just for that! Plus food left over for the next day!

Milicentbystander72 · 14/02/2020 08:34

I don't blame you OP.

I believe that the worst over-the-top SM Valentines posts are from relationships that a bit rocky and are in need validation.

Over the years I've seen gushing posts from people full of massive hearts, roses and expensive presents. I know for a fact they're always arguing, miserable and quite often split up soon after.

Just an observation of my own, but you're not wrong for not wanting to see it all.

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Bluewater1 · 14/02/2020 08:49

I hadn't thought of that, that those types of posts are probably people who are maybe not happy in their relationship. Just feeling fragile today (today is the day my ex proposed to me) so I need to be distracted away from it not see it everywhere. It's not even everywhere I know that tbh, it just feels like that today.
@letmepeeinpeace
That sounds really tough, I'm so sorry Flowers

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Bluewater1 · 14/02/2020 08:51

@puds11
Now that is a brilliant idea!! Grin

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Bluewater1 · 14/02/2020 08:53

@fizzymango that sounds tough, I'm sorry Flowers

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SusanneLinder · 14/02/2020 20:44

DH and I don't celebrate Valentine's day.Its bollocks. Don't even do cards.

Likethebattle · 15/02/2020 09:05

All holidays are made up bollocks though. Mother’s Day is nothing to do with actual mothers, Father’s Day evolved because of Mother’s Day....