left out

[Bleublue]

I am in a group of 6 friends. We’ve been friends since high school and we’re now late 40s.

We all have kids and I am the only one with all boys. Three of them. The other five all have either daughters or sons and daughters.

I’ve just found out that the five of them have organised a spa day for them and their daughters and haven’t asked me. Even though I don’t have a daughter, I still thought I might have been included.

I don’t know why but I feel stupidly upset about this and I don’t know whether to say anything.

Their daughters range in ages mid twenties to mid teens.

Aibu to say anything? If so, what?

Maybe they thought you would feel left out with a daughter going. Maybe just ask if you could still join them?

Like PP says, how would you feel about asking if you can join them anyway? They may have lost their ‘sensitivity filter’ but they may recognise it if you raise it with them.

Last week I assumed the worst by being left out of a group birthday breakfast thing and it turned out that I was interpreting the whole thing wrongly. I was reading every FB post incorrectly, every text that arrived I was misinterpreting etc.

In the end I asked them and when they explained the facts they were so sorry they genuinely were mortified.

Keep the communication open. If it doesn’t happen this time, suggest that you all go together another time and make a date while the iron is hot so to speak
Good luck. X