This year im turning 30, ages ago my mum told me that her and my dad wanted to spend my birthday with me as it was an important one. Didnt think too much into it and agreed, it was ages away so had no plans.
Turns out that the week, up to the day before my birthday is a specific work event. This involves travel, long long hours, very little sleep. It is optional, but the money is very good, my dp (who works for the same conpany) has worked it for years, i worked it for the first time last year and had an amazing time. Its tough but rewarding and good to do if you want to progress, which i do.
Told my mum this and she seems to think im being awkward by putting this optional work event before seeing her.
Suggested that i could see her the weekend after my birthday. She lives very rurally, so when i see her we normally meet in the middle, in a city where my brother lives. But ill be shattered after the work event, and im starting to resent having to go out of my way to do something for my own birthday, just to keep other people happy. She is assuming that the meet up at the weekend after my birthday would be in this middle city.
WIBU to want her to come and see me in the city i live, rather than having to travel 4 hour round trip? Its starting to feel like my birthday has become a lot of hassle in order to keep other people happy. I would be happy with no fuss, nice chilled weekend. If my parents were here too that would be lovely, it would be nice to see them and spend the weekend with them, but without having to travel to see them.