AIBU to not tell my employer?

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Hi all.

My husband and I are struggling to conceive. We have been ttc for over a year now. We have our first fertility clinic appointment next week. I have pcos - a period 2/3 times a year at most. Aibu to not tell my employer that I’m am TTC. I am looking to work my way up at work, I don’t want to tell them in case this stops them wanting me to progress. If I knew 100% I could fall pregnant then I wouldn’t pursue working my way up, but as there is a possibly I couldn’t fall pregnant for a number of years would I be unreasonable to not say anything?

No don't tell them. You don't need to until you are actually so far along with pregnancy. That said a promotion did just get handed to me when I was in early pregnancy and I liked my boss a lot so mentioned it to her to ask if it would affect anything (it didn't).

They don’t need to know details of any medical appointments.

@KillingEvenings yup, think it’s by 25 weeks you have to tell them.

After a failed FET I have asked my line manager to work from home more, to lower the stress level, in preparation for the next cycle and now he asked me to discuss it with HR, and tell them,' just in case I need support', but I am not confortable for sharing this with them, for all the reasons above...

Are they entiteled to know since they are alowing me to work more days from home?

Thank you