To ask how you knew you were in love

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Rather than infatuated or obsessed or flattered by the attention or carried away with the excitement. What makes being in actual love different from the other emotions?

And were you right? Did it stand the test of time?

Things that would have turned me off in other people didn't bother me with him. I could spend all day and all night with him over and over without ever feeling bored. I simultaneously felt the butterflies but also very calm and relaxed in his presence.

It felt like two jigsaw pieces fitting together. That was that. Everything just slotted into place. Also, he has the best shoulders on the planet. And a Scottish accent. Oh lord, he is MAGNIFICENT!

Six months in, I was walking home from the school run, thinking about something else entirely and suddenly this thought came into my head 'I'd love to hear him say 'I love you sadeyed' '
And I could NOT shift that thought.

It took another 4 months to able to finally say to him 'you know how I feel about you, don't you?' And he just replied 'yes, and I love you too, sadeyed.' And when I say 'say' it was via text message

And now? It is love like I have never known. He's a part of me. I have loved before, but never like this. I look back on our very first conversation and we just got each other within 30 seconds. Six years later, all we need to do is look at each other, and we both know what the other is thinking.

He was someone I knew in my social circle and we got together a while after I split from exDH. It was a slow burn but then I realised there is nobody I would rather be with. He is easy, fun company, relaxed, so considerate, the most romantic and kind person. I think and hope I am the same to him too. Together 13 years and getting married in May.

I met him on a dating website. As soon as I met him I just "knew". So did he.
15 years and still going strong.

So many lovely stories. Madly, I was the same: it was like I'd known him forever after a few weeks. We are, indeed, peas in a pod but also yin and yang. I definitely think I was waiting for him all my life. I was separated with 2 small DC and not looking for anything and BOOM. Almost 10 years, and I cannot contemplate life without him: the thought makes me well up. We laugh like drains every day, still.

It wasn't about butterflies, sex, or any physical stuff. There was that too but that wasn't the overriding feeling.

I just had this sense of calm and peace that I'd never experienced with anyone else before. He felt like family.

And he was always true to his word. If he said he would call, he called. If he said he'd be somewhere, he was there. There was no game playing or second guessing or messing each other around, from day one we basically made it totally obvious we were both feeling it. It was so freeing to not have to pretend to be someone else or to play it cool.

I still feel the same as I did at the start and I feel like our relationship gets better all the time.

When I first met him I knew it was love. It was like finding my missing piece.

Over the last 18 years we have loved each other every day. He is funny, kind and gentle, clever but humble. My kind of wonderful!

Thanks for sharing I’ve enjoyed reading these stories

Met for the first time and I found myself thinking "ah there you are", I recognised him and felt like I'd just been waiting for him.

Exactly. It was the second I laid eyes on him - thinking, this is the man I am supposed to be marrying.

It’s been 15 years since that moment. Never looked back.

This sounds so cheesy and it probably is, but when my husband and I first got together this is how I felt..You know when you’ve been out all day, running errands in the pissing down rain, and you get home and have that ‘ahh thank god’ feeling..that’s how I felt the second My husband and I got together. And 8 years later that’s still how I feel.