DH suddenly an incompetent cook

[DinnersReady]

I don't know what has gotten into the man but all of a sudden he is in need of explicit instructions when it comes to food

What are we eating? Where are the tins? What do you put into this dish? Where is the spaluta?

He seems to have lost any ability he had to think independently or use Google. He was fine last year. What on earth is this sudden helplessness?

I, of course, am doing the mature thing and hiding upstairs in the bedroom while he stomps around and slams kitchen cupboards.

@mantarays, suggesting a woman might be pregnant when her husband is being an incompetent arse is of the same line as asking if a woman is pmsing when cross about something.

Yanbu, op. A helping hand is fine, but acting like a robot who needs every tiny instruction given before he functions is infuriating. Just tell him to read some instructions and figure it out like the rest of us have to.

how old is he?
dementia was my first thought.
does he do a lot of sports, does he take steroids?

@mantarays not polite to call OP snarky either is it?

Otherwise, it could be early onset dementia.

I cant decided whether you're serious, or making some underhanded joke as to how often that's suggested as a problem on MN...

MouthBreathingRage

It’s not, and you have completely misunderstood. Perhaps if you were less assumptive and just asked what I was thinking when I asked the question...?

Pooh

I did call her “snarky”, or anything. I said she bit my head off, which I think is fair, and I called her response “snark”. “Snark” is fairly inoffensive language IMO.

Anyway, this is a rather pointless detail. I don’t want to spend my evening defending myself when I was trying to be helpful.

Goodnight, all.

Sorry: didn’t, not did.

He's being deliberately incompetent, it's like they want company or something or for you to take over. My husband is usually pretty good but will still try it on sometimes. I usually ask him if he wants me to pull up a chair and cheer him on

Let him bang away and stay upstairs until it's done.

mantarays has been a dick across a number of threads today, just ignore it, it'll get bored eventually

Mouth - I’m not entirely joking. Stranger things have happened.

TheFastandTheCurious

Again, I wasn’t being “a dick”. I was trying to help the OP and she was rude. And now you’re being rude.

My cats like this sometimes. He likes me to sit and watch him as he eats. I don't oblige.

Mantarays - you do sound rather on edge, to be fair. I think you misinterpreted the OP tone, that’s all. It happens sometimes.

77seven

I’m on edge now, yes. I’ve been called a dick and so on. Actually, I was just trying to help.

Can we maybe stop derailing the thread?

Has anything changed lately OP? Is he under more stress than usual?

There was no reason for the OP to speak to me as she did and I pointed it out, that’s all.
To ask you a question you mean?
Oh god forbid!

Anyway haven't you left this thread yet? You've said you're leaving about 3 times and there really is no need for you to stay and continue derailing

Anyway haven't you left this thread yet? You've said you're leaving about 3 times and there really is no need for you to stay and continue derailing

Really, that’s you. You have the option to stop being aggressive and rude, but instead you choose to do this.

@77seven, early on set dementia is a very rare illness. I dont think it's fair to worry any OP about it unless the person they are talking about is presenting other 'red flags' to the illness. Having watched a parent being diagnosed with, and subsequently die of, early onset dementia, reading people using it as a throwaway diagnosis on here to describe any sort of irritating behaviour is rather infuriating.

@mantarays

Wrong side of the bed this morning?

Sounds like he is being lazy trying to avoid cooking. I would just ignore him.

CarolinaPink

Honestly, no! This site is just so odd. The OP was prickly (sorry but she was). I’ve been called names and had posters stalking me round the site, but for some reason you and several others interpret this as me being at fault? Why? All I did was ask the OP a question to try to help her out, and point it out when she was snarky with me.

This is one weird website.

@mantarays
Please point out where I've been aggressive and rude?

I'll just wait here, not-holding my breath

Anyway haven't you left this thread yet? You've said you're leaving about 3 times and there really is no need for you to stay and continue derailing

This is aggressive. This is rude. I have as much right to post here as you do and it’s not for you to tell me there is no need for me to be anywhere. Please leave me alone to post where I wish, and I will extend the same courtesy to you.

Creweneck

Thank you.