to feel hurt by friend's flakiness?

[catlovingdoctor]

A close friend and I had been saying for a while we would go on a short holiday together. We probably see each other and catch up twice a month if not more. I asked about dates and suggested a couple of weekends to prospectively book a trip. She said one of them would work for her.

Then she messaged a couple of days later saying some friends of hers she doesn't see often are going away and "do you mind if I check with them if they are or not?"

She said not to let it stop me from booking another trip with anybody else. (I hadn't been planning to or mentioned another trip to her at all).
She said she was sorry for being flaky.

I feel it's quite disrespectful and I've almost been shoved off as the second choice and ditched for other people. I find it quite hurtful.

Am I being over-sensitive? Or would you feel a bit hurt/disrespected too?

Your friends a bitch!

Am I being over-sensitive? Nope

Or would you feel a bit hurt/disrespected too? Yup

She's really owning her CF'ery with that text apologising for being a flake though. As if that makes it ok.
Does she often treat you as a second option OP?
How often does she put you first, how often is she the one suggesting your next meet-up?

I hope you have other nice folk in your life who will go on this trip with you - or that you are happy to go on your own.

She is not a great friend and doesn't see your friendship as you do.

She doesn’t want to go with you and is trying to be polite about it. Time to cut the friendship.

I've had this a bit in the past. My best friend now lives 3.5 hours away by car so we like to pre-book dates into our calendars. I've never cancelled on her (meaning me drive down to see her) but she has a habit of 'forgetting' its some other girls birthday or baby shower or something so our plans go out the window. Never accept being a Plan B xx

Unacceptable. She’s using you as plan B. I think she’s a flaky bitch and wouldn’t bother from now on.