To find MC reaction over the top?

[Elouera]

Maybe the wrong wording, but not sure how to describe it? Hubby and I were visiting MIL/step-father on the weekend and went with them to the pub for a drink. During our 1st drink, the TV in the background said that a 'celebrity' (none of us had heard of) had an early miscarriage. MIL started crying and saying how awful and terrible for the celebrity and her family. She couldn't imagine losing a child and its such a terrible thing. I agreed and tried to calm things down, but she went on and on. I wanted to tell her there and then about my experiences, but thought better of it.

I'm not aware of any losses which might explain her reaction- but might be the case? We have TTC 8yrs and had 2 losses, 1 of which was a traumatic loss due to a genetic issue when we lived abroad. We never mentioned these loses to MIL (mainly as OH didn't want to & I agreed). We never told other friends/family, so its wasnt just MIL. MIL/step-father also had falling out with us around that time, so only getting closer again in recent years. If/when we manage to have a child and IF it came up, I'd be happy to mention our years of struggles, but given her recent reaction, I'm not so sure.

Maybe I'm missing something and would appreciate thoughts from others.

Some people are just more sensitive to some things than others. There may be a back story but I think you did the right thing to acknowledge her feelings.

I would question if she has found out about your losses and is using the celebrity story as a cover to try and get you to talk about it. Her overly emotional reaction could be because she feels upset about the loss of her gc or the fact you didnt tell her.

Maybe she has had a loss herself.

Does she often turn things into being about her? Crying in public is a bit attention seeking imo.

it's only in recent years people are more open. she's probably had a loss but equally she's obviously not trying to moderate her response.

Maybe she had losses she never talked about? My grandma lost babies and her first baby died a week after birth. This was nearly 60 years ago and she was a teenager and only now has she started bringing up her losses out of the blue and becoming depressed. And crying in public isnt attention seeking ffs. No wonder people suffer mental problems when you cant show emotion without being attention seeking. Reminds me of dp who told me i was attention seeking when i posted a poem about mc 2 weeks after my loss. People get emotional about stuff its normal.

Thanks for the replies. I did question hubby about whether he mentioned our losses to her, and he is adamant he didn't- which I do believe. It did cross my mind at the time too. I've also wondered if she had a loss/losses, but have no idea and its never been brought up. Crying like in the middle of the pub is not something I've seen before from her. Falling asleep at a restaurant, snoring, drooling in the pub I have though .