How to ensure that I never allow another selfish sponge into my life..

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Is it an unreasonable expectation?
Following on from my thread in relationships I wonder if I am forever destined to be an absolute walk over for selfish sponges of men.
I basically gave my life to my husband and family in order for him to succeed professionally. He has taken off with a new woman just after he reached the pinnacle of success.
I am so drained and confused but worry if I attract these users into my life and how to avoid them. I'm not ready to date yet, maybe I'll never meet anyone, but if and when I do, what does s a healthy adult relationship look like these days? How can I avoid being a walking target for spongers and users ? Thanks

Anyone come out the other side of this please?

Yes sorry, mine did the same. I supported him in every way for 20 years giving up my own life in the process and then when he started earning big money walked out on me when I was in hospital.
I wish I had left him him in the gutter where I'd found him.
I'm staying single now I just can't trust another man.
I survived because I'm a survivor but at 57 I now have a mortgage, I can't retire early as planned and I lost my lovely hosue that I worked a lifetime to pay for.
I despise him and quite honestly will never be able to trust another man.

That's awful! I do wish you well.
Thanks. I'm finding
My anger today . I go through stages . I know in in my heart he will
Regret this. He is despised by my family friends colleagues and our community. Not so much just because of f me but we have children with needs and people are disgusted that he just walked without even trying and the weekend we were due to move apart, he went away for the full weekend with his girlfriend and our kids were devastated .tells you everything you need to know about the man.. This is really affecting him .his family are low contact with him. They are ashamed and heartbroken .our GP is a friend who f ours and he is furious that I went to him for sti testing
Referral. It's all about his image . It's unbelievable really. Still
All about him