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AIBU to ask how to make friends? I'm so lonely...

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eenymeenyminyme · 11/02/2020 10:10

My bestie lives over an hour away and I only get to see her a few times a year. We both have busy lives and finding time we're both free isn't easy, which is fine. Locally, I have one close friend who I see probably once a month. It's mostly me that does the arranging but she'll initiate contact sometimes so that's fine too.

Other than that, I have very few female friends. I'll see them if I make the effort to co-ordinate a meet up but I've really got fed up with being the only one doing the running especially as they're often too busy. They have families and I'm a single mum, which I suspect is part of the problem as we have less in common these days.

I'm so jealous of all these women who have groups of girl friends who they go out with, whether it's a coffee or a night out, and the feeling of loneliness as my teen DD has her own social life is starting to overwhelm me.

I have a DP who I see a couple of times a week and he's great, but I yearn for female company. How do I start from scratch though when everyone else seems to have these established groups, who I don't get invited to join?

Sorry, it's a bit 'poor me' but I would love to have a group of friends I can call on, or who more importantly would call me sometimes and ask me along! I go to parkrun and chat to people before and after and I'm thinking about joining some similar local groups but I just have a feeling that I'll end up making small talk with a few of them then they'll go back to their own groups and I'll feel even sadder.

How can I make new friends so I can stop feeling so damn lonely?!

OP posts:
Carabu1 · 29/06/2020 16:01

If you’re into running join your local running club! Seriously, they are a god send - although admittedly maybe less atm what with Covid etc. I have moved lots of times as an adult, and each time I have found this to be the best way of making local friends - set training means set meet up days, often with a drink and chat after, races are whole days out, socials. And the variety of people is always huge - including lots of younger and/or childless women who you may find have more free time and are more willing to open up social circles. Honestly, they have changed my life in so many good ways and I’ve made so many close friends in multiple cities that way.

YouAreTheEggManIAmTheWalrus · 29/06/2020 16:07

@wobblywinelover this part of your reply has me absolutely flummoxed
and a lot of people don't like being associated with single mothers

Is this your experience?

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