To not really like one of my siblings

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I feel that it’s really rare to admit to not liking your sibling but I really don’t like one of mine. I feel really bad about it in a lot of ways.

Why don't you like them? Odd question to ask if you aren't going to give your own story or reasons....

Just how selfish and spiteful they are. Yet they can point out everyone’s else’s faults.

I hate my brother. I Love my half siblings though.

My DH hates both of his sisters and they don't much like him either. Haven't spoken in years.

Don't think it's uncommon to dislike a sibling.

Same. I beat myself up for years trying to understand why we don’t get on & get their approval. We are just different people. I’ve made my peace with it now.

I dislike my brother very much. For very many reasons!

Very common to dislike a sibling, I think.

It's certainly not uncommon. I know of plenty of people who have poor or at least very complex relationships with their siblings. Just because you are family doesn't mean you have to like each other.

I see the fact you are related as a red herring; I don't think you have to like people who are nasty, selfish or spiteful.
I don't like my brother, he's a bully and he abandoned his son. AFAIK he's never done anyone a good turn and I don't know of any good points. Why would I like him?

I can't stand my brother, he's awful. We never had a big falling out or anything but I have seen him for years. I think it's fine, you don't have to like people just because you're related.

*havent

Don't feel bad! It's really not uncommon. I thoroughly dislike mine and we have nothing in common, so again haven't spoken in a very long time. I really don't see them as part of my family, my life.

Thank you for the comments I don’t feel as alone now.

I'll add my name to the list. Haven't talked to my brother for a couple of years now. He told me to fuck off. So I did.

I've been NC with my brother for nearly 4 years, as has my mum.

I don't like one of my brothers and dh doesn't like two of his siblings. I used to feel bad but I am over it now, we speak but only when we happen to meet at my parents, otherwise I have zero interest

I've got one of those too.

My brother is a bit of an arse but I don’t mind him that much. Sister I cannot stand, condescending, patronising controlling old moose.

My brother hasn't spoken to me in over 7 years.. And he has seen me a few times and I've had 2 children in this time.
I love him but I don't like him.

You don't choose your family.

I don’t think it’s as uncommon as it might appear in real life but people generally don’t talk about such things.

I’m nc with my sister she’s a bloody nightmare. Been nc with her twice before and was talked around but I won’t be this time. It’s been 6/7 years? There are certain good aspects of her I miss nobody is all bad but the bad far outweighed the good and caused considerable stress and arguments with others.

My mum is 1 of 6 but 1 of the others is also a nightmare. They are included in major family events but otherwise aren’t really part of things largely as they’re unbelievably awkward and snobby about certain activities the others do together.

My dad is 1 of 5 and they are constantly falling out with each other! There are 2 that are always “friends” but yes constant arguments some going back decades! Parents take very little to do with them now. Polite communication mostly.

Various friends I know privately that they have fallen out with or are no contact with or vlc with siblings but it’s not public knowledge. Although 1 situation did spectacularly blow up on fb recently but I happen to know the family very well and quite honestly it was a LONG time coming and the person who blew up was very much the scapegoat and I was actually really pleased to see them finally stand up for themselves. Some home truths were posted and when asked I’ll admit I didn’t tell them otherwise and they fell out with me then! Not a problem they were in the wrong and I wasn’t going to say otherwise just to salve their conscience.

Thinking about it I know very few people who get along well with all siblings. I think that’s more rare actually. Going off my fb friends (all people I know well) I’d say less than a dozen genuinely have good relationships with siblings out of over 200 people.

The rest either simply aren’t close (usually due to big age gaps) or are actively anti each other.

I’m not including “normal” sibling rivalry/bickering but truly not having much in common, having very different opinions on key issues, having had massive fall outs due to dreadful behaviour on the part of one of them.

Will also add my name to the list. My Brother told me to fuck off 18 months ago so I have.

Nope, I've seriously gone off one of mine in the last 12 months.
Ironically, he's acting like another family member with whom he's estranged because he doesn't like them and the way they behave. Can't see it if you hold a mirror up though 🙄

My DP really doesn’t like one of his brothers since he met DSIL - they really bring out each other’s nasty side

Certainly nothing uncommon about disliking siblings. Dh hasn't spoken to his for nearly 7 years and is unlikely to ever speak to her again. Don't ever think you have to have an amicable relationship with your sibling simply because you're related.