DMs comments on our relationship

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We have been going through a not so good stage in our relationship, so we have been spending less time together than usual.

It's nothing major, we all have ups and downs, now DM said to me yesterday that she didn’t care if we broke up she just didn’t want to hear about it from someone else and look stupid.

SERIOUSLY?! So annoyed that all she is worried about is looking silly and not me, DH and our marriage.

AIBU?

Perhaps it was just a strange self absorbed way of saying "is there something wrong, you can tell me" kind of thing..

YANBU to want your mum to care about how you are. Does your mum regularly make things about her?

Are you sure it's not the fact that, it's looking very obvious that you and your partner arent getting on and rumours are gona start. So maybe she was telling you to get your shit together and sort your marriage out rather than run/avoid it?

Is your MIL Hyacinth Bouquet?!

Yeah, that's a pretty shallow and uncaring response from her. Hope you're ok, OP, and that things get better for you

Sorry OP, I thought it was your MIL who'd made the comment.
In that case, it's your mother who's HB

Ha ha - that's the kind of thing my DM would say. But after half a century of similar comments, it's all water off a ducks back now. I am immune.