AIBU to want a boob job?

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As a quick disclaimer - I am not a mum and am not planning on being a mum anytime soon, but I feel like I need some genuine advice from some more experience people than me.

I’m 19 and have been extremely insecure about my boobs since the second I got them (about 10 years old). One has always been bigger than the other - I know this is normal - but one side is a 30F and one is a 30D at VERY most. The difference seems to increase and decrease throughout the month, but it is still very prevalent.

It’s not an issue of boys,I’ve been with my boyfriend since I was 16 who is adamant that it makes no difference to him etc. And I do believe him. I just really hate my body a lot tbh.

I am not a fan of the idea of implants as having something that isn’t my own in my body makes me feel squeamish. Would it be stupid to save up for a fat transfusion when there are probably better things I could be spending my money on as a student? And does anyone have experience with one?

I can't advise on the practicalities of surgery as I have not done that, but I would like to let you know that you aren't alone - huge numbers of women feel very negative about their breasts. certainly at 19 I hated mine, and would have had breast reduction surgery if i could have afforded it. now I am in my 40s and theoretically could afford it but tbh life is full of competing priorities and the shape of my body doesn't feel like a big deal any more and I can't see that spending thousands of pounds to adjust it is likely to enhance my happiness one jot.

I would suggest that you consider having some counselling sessions to help you think through your feelings and work out where this is coming from. you may find this results in you feeling more accepting of your body shape. increase your awareness of how toxic media images are designed to keep women in a constant state of anxiety about their bodies, and no surgery will stop that happening so sooner or later you will have to learn to accept your imperfections - and if that happens before you have any kind of surgery then you have saved yourself a lot of physical and mental pain as well as a lot of money and quite a bit of real danger as no surgery is without risk.

if you do decide to go ahead then getting the larger breast reduced down to the same size as the smaller is much more sensible than trying to increase the smaller or average the two. but I would advise you don't take any steps towards doing this until you are at least 26 - whilst you are legally an adult now, the human brain does not finish maturing until mid to late 20s and so nothing irreversible should be done to your body before then if it is at all avoidable.