To be annoyed MIL has used my address?

[MummyGoingItAlone]

I can’t decide if I’m being petty but I don’t think I am?

In 2 weeks time I move house. Now ex partner and I separated a while back but had to wait to get out of a tenancy. I’ve rented myself a house and he’s still looking for somewhere but will be a house share as he has a lot of debt and limited disposable income (he’s a spendaholic and admits this). We are still civil and have a young son together. If it wasn’t for our child though, we wouldn’t see each other again after the split.

Anyway, I’ve found out today that my MIL has gotten my new address from ex and has given it to her solicitor as the address for my ex. The solicitor is to do with a family matter and absolutely nothing to do with me or our son. AIBU to be annoyed? I’ve text her and asked her to remove my address and she got snotty saying I’d taken everything away from her son and at the very least he should be able to use my address as he’s forced to live in a shared house. She then had the cheek to question my salary and how I can afford full time childcare and my own house, to which I pointed out I’m a much higher earner than him, I’m frugal and have minimal debt (not like it’s her business!)

Sorry, she’s just grated on me tonight.

consider reporting her for fraud if she keeps on doing this shit

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If may affect your credit if his debts get associated with your address.

Make sure you don’t leave it and return to sender or update the solicitor or it could affect your credit rating so ability to get loans, mortgage etc

How would this affect her credit rating? Genuinely interested.

1 New Abode

Dear Sir/Madam

Regarding your client Mr A TwuntBadger, kindly be informed that he has never and does not currently reside at the above address and correspondence for him sent here will be marked “Return to Sender” and put back in the post.

I trust Mr TwuntBadger will supply you with his correct address, but it is not my problem if he doesn’t.

Thank you for your understanding,

Yours,

Is this a UK solicitor? I ask since you say it's family business and his mum is in Croatia.

If so, I'd try to get the name ahead of time and call the firm and tell them the 'mixup' and that you'll be returning any correspondence sent to your address 'in error'. If you can't get the name I'd wait until the letter came and do the same.

If it's a foreign solicitor, I'd put the first letter received in an envelope and mail it back to the address with a note saying the same thing.

Put it back in the postbox with DECEASED in large letters, let her sort it out.

It’s an English solicitor. MIL has retired abroad. She’s been bitching to ex about me all evening 🤣 Hes told her to remove my address and apologised. He thought it would be ok?! 🤣

I’d write “not known at this address” on everything that comes for him and shove it back in the post box. If he misses out on important mail that’s tough shit. Wouldn’t tell him either. He can take it up with his mother and whoever else.

Tell all concerned that this is not happening and to make alternative arrangements.

It could throw a spanner in the works of your council tax and potentially, you could end up with his debt-collectors at your door.

Even though Ex has told his mother to remove your address from the solicitor's record, I would make sure I contacted them myself if any post does in fact turn up. Because the mother may chose to ignore her son.

Yanbu
Especially as this is for legal reasons. I would inform your solicitor that he doesn’t live there and ask their advice.

Even though Ex has told his mother to remove your address from the solicitor's record, I would make sure I contacted them myself if any post does in fact turn up. Because the mother may chose to ignore her son.

Given the way the mother has acted, I'd think it was likely that she will ignore her son. I would still contact the solicitor.

@JiltedJohnsJulie It absolutely could affect her ability to get credit.

If someone who has bad credit becomes 'associated' (that's the term they use) with your address, then that can affect your likelihood of being accepted.

Companies such as Experian, take your address info into consideration

Accordingly to Experian they would only take his credit rating into consideration if they were financially linked, for instance with a mortgage.