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AIBU?

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Lie in resentment AIBU?

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jenniferyellowhat12 · 09/02/2020 12:14

My husband works full time and commutes about an hour either way to work. I work 3 days a week and am off for 2 days with youngest (preschooler). Each morning I get up with the kids and make them breakfast and often dress them. Husband may do bath time and beds once or twice a week. I have no time to myself as he gets back late from work. He does little housework says it’s too messy so doesn’t try . He’s a right s* without sleep but his argument is that as he’s not a morning person he won’t bother trying. On my lie in day he doesn’t respond to the kids coming in straight away but tells them to lie still or be quiet so I end up getting up with them which I don’t mind so much but the resentment I feel is making me and probably the kids suffer. It sounds really bad when I write it out but he states he does other things like has to deal with the fall out from my MH issues which had added to the stress of our lives anyway. AIBU to suggest that even if you aren’t a morning person you still get up with the kids? He never does anything with them without me either so no time off!

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Piemam · 09/02/2020 13:30

YANBU at all- salient point is having kids overrides morning person, night owl etc. You wouldn't get out of changing nappies for example by saying not a nappy person! Talk to him.

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