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To hate swearing..?

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peachesgeldof0212 · 09/02/2020 06:44

I never used to swear.. I absolutely hate it, it sounds so vulgar, but now I can't stop and I keep swearing at my children.... help me! Serious question - how do I stop swearing?

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Sparklingbrook · 09/02/2020 07:00

So you have no control over what comes out of your mouth? Confused

Your username is a little misjudged too.

Dipi79 · 09/02/2020 07:46

Swearing at children is not okay and only you can stop. It's just about taking responsibility for it, but also looking at the underlying feelings when you are swearing. I'm talking as a former prolific 'swearer' and I regret using pretty choice language even after my little ones were born. I just made a conscious effort to work on it. And, yeah, I'm a bit twee these days, as I say "sugar" rather than shit. And, the odd rude word comes out at the wrong time, but I'm much better. Swearing at children can be abusive. Good luck.

ethelfleda · 09/02/2020 07:50

You need to replace your swear words with other words! I say ‘flipping’ a lot.

ethelfleda · 09/02/2020 07:51

What’s quite sweet is that DS (2yo) now says things like ‘oh my goodness’ after picking it up from us

Elephantonascooter · 09/02/2020 08:04

We also replace words. DS must think we love shitayke mushrooms and pistachios Hmm

peachesgeldof0212 · 09/02/2020 20:06

@Elephantonascooter that's adorable, brilliant idea, thank you!!

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peachesgeldof0212 · 09/02/2020 20:07

@Dipi79 I know that's my worry :( I am having counselling at the moment for anger in general so should bring this up with him

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AskingQuestionsAllTheTime · 09/02/2020 20:47

Someone I know says "Oh for crying in the beer!" instead of "oh FFS", and calls people a crothound or an idiot prune instead of anything actually sweary when they do something stupid. She says it gets their attention better. You can invent your own, though you'd need to consult Urban Dictionary to make sure nobody is using that particular word to mean (say) testicles this week.

My favourite, to someone who carved her while she was driving, went, "You jumped up, never come down, blind, blithering, half-baked, size twelve ego in a size five soul." It made us both laugh and she felt better too.

Slack-twisted is good. Oh, there are oodles of words which sound awful and don't mean anything particularly bad.... I mean, mawkish? Gruntfuttock? Splot? Spurge? Martlet?

Or there is using something which has a meaning everyone knows but which is irrelevant: "you perishing bicycle chain!"

After a bit a mere unimaginative fuck or bugger sounds terribly mundane and boring.

AskingQuestionsAllTheTime · 09/02/2020 20:49

oops. Urban dictionary has a ruder meaning for splot than it used to have. Oh well; that just makes my point about checking first.

Squidgyflump · 09/02/2020 20:53

I say fudge a lot

ShesGotBetteDavisEyes · 09/02/2020 20:53

askingquestions post reminds me of a lady I used to work with who used to shout “oh, FOLDEROL!” If she was annoyed.
In an office full of sweary, vulgar alpha-male types it was rather funny- Especially as they didn’t have a clue what it meant!

AskingQuestionsAllTheTime · 09/02/2020 21:52

Fewmets is another good one.

Bluerussian · 09/02/2020 22:36

Swear as much as you like on your own but never in front of children, that's awful.

peachesgeldof0212 · 10/02/2020 13:17

@AskingQuestionsAllTheTime Gruntfuttock GrinGrinGrin

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happymummy12345 · 12/02/2020 16:14

I swear a lot. I do my best not to in front of ds now as he's at the age where he repeats and copies

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