to not like my mother touching me?

[Gone2far]

I'm in my 60s, and my mother is almost 90.
I visit fortnightly - we are 2 hours away. It's fine (ish) and we kiss and have a hug. But she always gets up really close to me, stares deep into my eyes, and makes some comment about my appearance. She feels my clothes (as in, rubs the fabric between her fingers), and/or my skin and comments about my glasses, or my make up.
TBH it freaks me out. And she knows it. After the last visit, she called me at 11.30pm in tears saying how sad she was that I didn't like it and that she doesn't see her grandchildren.
So, I apologise. My upbringing has always been to 'never upset your mother'. But surely she should respect MY feelings too. Plus my children go to some inconvenience to visit her.
Any AIBU?

Has she always done this and youve bitten your tongue or did you come from a non touchy feely family and this feels weird?
We dont have a touchy feely family and only really hug when somrleones ill or depressed or had a shitty day. Still feels awkward. I also font hug my friends unless its a really bad thing happened. Luckily they understand im not a touchy feely person and really appreciate when i put that aside because they need human contact.
Weirdly enough im different with my own son though i am honest when i just dont want to be tiuched and he understands that. One of the perks of being a single mum with one kid. He gets my need to be alone occasionally

If think the scrutiny as well as the touching etc is too much if you're not on great terms with anyone, even an elderly relative. I get it, my DM was emotionally unavailable, hated hugs but would pick apart my personality, hair, clothes, makeup usually negatively. It's like being a specimen, analysed under a microscope. Awful. I'd do a quick hug then say 'i'll put the kettle on' & make busy . Hug goodbye too. I think she's a bit socially inept & to me it's aso a dominance thing. I had a very domineering Nurse once, she'd constantly prod you with her forefinger, to emphasise every sentence, it felt really invasive as being ill I couldn't physically distance myself.

My family weren't very tactile and I think touching clothes (picking a thread off your top, straightening your hood) was a way of being close
^ This resonates with me. And a few other things on this thread.

If this is fairly new - Increased touching and also the change in inhibitions, and emotional lability, can be a sign of early dementia as well, which is unfortunately normal/ to be expected to a degree with someone in their 90s.

I also think bobbypinseverywhere is bang on the money.

TBH a craving for contact suggestes massive loneliness. I would out up with it in your position, but of course it's a decision for you to make. Is she getting much social contact outside family? Could you help her plan a schedule if not? Loneliness does strange things to you.

I’m prepared to be criticised but, rubbing clothes between fingers and unusual staring sounds like dementia.
Have witnessed this many times in dementia care homes.
Sorry

thank you everybody. Especially those who hit the nail on the head about the scrutiny aspect. Which is what it is all about.