Am I the rude one?

[PonyPals]

Would really love to know if I was the one?

Was at a playground with my DS. There were lots of building blocks for the kids to use. Two kids used all the blocks to build a tower (it took them awhile and they didn't want any other kids help) fair enough my DS played with other things for 20 min waiting for the kids to finish.
The boys ran away and I assumed they went home/else where so I told DS to run and slam into the blocks (foam) so we can start building something again.
Well when that happened I heard a scream and I turned around and the mother of the boys was yelling "how could you do this?" I said I am so sorry I thought the boys have finished and left. She said I should be apologising to her children.
I just turned back and loudly said to my DS to start playing as it's his turn now and we should all share the blocks.
I know it's a first world problem but still bugging me. Was I in the wrong? Should I have not encouraged DS to knock it all down?

oh crikey, is this a 2020 problem, I can't imagine this kind of thing years ago, and glad we didn't have social media to talk about such mundane things.

You weren't wrong at all, and no need to apologise to anyone.

The ten year olds had left the blocks, even if they had just gone to have lunch. You don't leave a reservation on equipment in a public playground, it is left for the next child who wants to play with it.

Notalurker is probably the mother who screamed at you. Utterly ridiculous.

YANBU The blocks are there for all kids to play with, and if the other kids had moved on then they were free for others. The other Mum sounds like a complete nutter

@Topseyt

LOL

Just want to add that once one of my DS had a friend over, and the friend knocked the head off of a snowman in our neighbor's yard. The neighbor dad actually came over to discuss it with me. It still makes me laugh thinking about it

Did they go into the neighbour's yard to do this?

Hey @NotALurker2 , I don't think you're that far off.

OP is very clear in her post that she was pissed that they used 'all the blocks' and took their sweet time doing so. I suspect by the "they didn't want other kids to help" that her precious may have tried to do so.

OP, the fact that you told your child to smash into the tower is another clue. You didn't do that because it 'looked like such fun' That move, right there, is pure payback 🤣

How long were you supposed to leave it standing? For posterity?

@PonyPals

I would have said the same ... what gives her children the right to keep all the bricks to themselves and she should have told them that herself. She is making those boys very selfish to allow them to do that.

@NotALurker2 nope that kind of behaviour at ten is ridiculous and the mothers behaviour is embarrassing. You are wrong.

I would have shrugged at her and got on with the day. It's a playground.

YANBU

DS is a block hogger (turns out it's one of his ASD traits) and he does not have the right to dominate all the blocks at the time of construction, and certainly not after he's (finally!) moved on. We tend to take a photo of his masterpiece, then remind him that it is other people's turn and it will not last.

Embrace impermanance and the act of doing!

I'm with you op. But I'd be properly annoyed at someone's who destroyed a snowman in my garden.

But I'd be properly annoyed at someone's who destroyed a snowman in my garden

Me too. WTF was the kid doing going into his garden? And they should know to respect other people's property/creations.
If your kid had made a snowman in their own garden and a random child just came into your garden and randomly wrecked it, I suspect you'd have been pissed off, OP

OP is NBU at all but I'd be pretty annoyed if some kid bowled into my garden to knock the head off a snowman. Those things take time to make and me and the kids have always enjoyed seeing them change as they melted.
Still, I live in the SE so snow is a bit if a rarity here.

Who cares if they're too old to be upset? The fact is, they were upset

Where do you get that from, @Notalurker2? They weren't even there, they'd gone off to have a meal.

The other mum sounds bonkers op.

shared bricks in a shared space - anything unattended is fair game, there's nothing remotely wrong about knocking down a tower and starting something new.

@NotALurker2 that's a completely different situation. a snowman that is on someone else's private garden is not fair game. someone built it and it belongs to them. the snow can't even be reused for something else. knocking it over is a dick move and the friend should be told to behave better. if it still makes you laugh that tells me a lot about you.

No you weren't BU. I had something like this the other day, maybe not the same but it annoyed me.

Me and my DS were out for breakfast with my mum on Friday and after waiting some time for our breakfast and eating it, DS (3 years old) wanted to walk around. It's a family type place with a playbarn attached to it. So he was wondering around and I was behing him. There was 3 ladies sat at a table and they had a baby in a buggy with them. The buggy was right in the middle of the only space to get past their table so there was a very narrow space to get past. My DS ran up then turn his body to squeeze past and he very lightly nudged the buggy. He can't talk so he just looked at them and smiled and carried on. The lady (the one sat closest to the buggy) must have not seen me coming up behind and she decided to tell my son off! She said "excuse me, watch the baby!" And pointed at him. I was of course not happy because my son did nothing wrong. He did not touch her baby or anything. He had to squeeze past because they were blocking the way with the buggy a bit. I approached and said he is only 3 years old. Where does this jumped up mother to a baby get off thinking she can tell other peoples children off for slightly nudging the buggy that she has positioned right in the way? It was the way she said it like my DS had harmed her baby for nudging the buggy 1mm! If she feels so protective, put the baby in a sling or don't go to toddler/young child filled places! I'm still angry now. My son took my hand and did a sad face and didn't understand

Playground, you abandon the toys then the toys are fair game for other children. I thought that was the rules?

Though pike other PP, I'd be annoyed at someone knocking over a snowman in my garden.

To be fair @YappityYapYap he should have been in the play barn not wandering amongst the tables, my ds does the same but if he nudged a pram I'd apologise to the owners of said pram. Saying that she was clearly a dick to tell him off as there was no need!

OP you did absolutely nothing wrong, the kids had gone to eat their lunch - you can't reserve the blocks all day just because you've made a tower out of them! The mother was being insanely precious and I wouldn't even have apologised, I would have just said 'what??'

Yanbu. Hope he had great fun in knocking the blocks down. Some people are nuts.

Yanbu they are not their toys and they'd gone to lunch. You can't reserve public toys.

My dc made a load of mega lego structures at the local carvey play spot. I photoed them before dinner for him and praised, and we went to leave to eat. He was upset when other kids smashed them but i just explained that they were everyone's toys. He's 2, hence explaining. At 10 the mum should get a grip.

Those blocks are for sharing. Mum's an idiot. Even the kids weren't complaining.

I would have quickly said he can't talk so I was saying sorry for him, I didn't get the chance as she jumped in to scold my son for nudging a buggy that was right in the way? I found it really ridiculous. She could have said watch the buggy but she said watch the baby like my son had harmed her baby in some way. We were waiting for the playbarn to open. I didn't mention this before as it wasn't relevant and she wouldn't have known but my son is actually autistic. I just find this 'don't breathe near my baby' logic disgusting and if she gets her knickers in a twist over a buggy being nudged, maybe she should stay at home. It was like we all bad to bow down for her baby! The baby was in that car seat type buggy where the car seat attaches to the chassis and she had the baby in there for almost 2 hours. She should concentrate on having a her baby lying flat rather than a 3 year old nudging it slightly!