I guess I should ask for a handhold and some miracles if you have them

[EightiesHair]

I have been suffering symptoms of a yet undiagnosed condition that has been affecting most areas of my life since october/november. Been awaiting test results for weeks. Doctor receptionists have been very unhelpful and seem unwilling to schedule another appointment despite symptoms getting worse, me being physically exhausted from the slightest thing, and worried about the effect of my symptoms on my unborn baby (18 weeks). Iron tablets are having no effect on the anaemia I have as a result of my symptoms.

My 10m old is missing out on the fun, energetic mum I was before getting ill and I feel like a failure of a mum and housewife because I am slacking massively in housework too simply because I am physically too weak to maintain the house as I used to when all my energy is going to our very active baby. Some days I feel I will collapse. Even carrying him up the stairs to his room literally floors me when I get there.

2 weeks ago my DH and I were given 6 weeks notice to move out as our LLs are selling the house. EVERY promising lead we've had to renting another has come to nothing - DH has bad credit so it's bloody hard enough as it is (and the latest offer we had, LL asked for our references before we move in, next day texts DH to say sorry her cousin has broken up with her boyfriend so she's renting the house to her instead .)

There's more but I will stop listing all my rants. I'm just so worn out from our situation. This is our first family home together and our LLs had given us the impression we would be here for years and years if we wanted so this came as a shock. And my constant struggles with and anxiety about my health and also how it could affect my pregnancy are consuming me but I'm getting nowhere despite being told even if this particular test comes back negative they will still to investigate due to the severity of my symptoms (so why not refer me for a scan or whatever now rather than wait? The symptoms I have tick every box for cancer as well as Crohn's so I am nervous as hell and want it investigated sooner not later! And we can't afford private healthcare).

Sorry this is just a pity party rant. It's been going on for so long now I don't want to go on about it any more to my DH I try to be strong for him and our baby and always put on a brave face but I don't know why everything seems to be falling apart

Keep persevering. I was you to a T, anaemia, getting weaker and weaker, terrible stomach pains, diarrhoea 6-8 times a day, among many other symptoms. I lost count of the times the GP said I was depressed, anxious, imagining it, needed antidepressants. Finally she agreed to refer me to the colon consultant who was an arrogant man who also dismissed me out of hand and told me there was nothing wrong. (He saw me on the ward when I was later hospitalised and extremely unwell and you could see by his face he knew he’d got it very wrong - he was like a different person in his attitude).

I eventually ended up in hospital so weak I couldn’t walk unaided from bedroom to bathroom and hallucinating with the stomach pain. I was so malnourished through so long not absorbing food that there was about a week in there I don’t even remember. I was in there for almost a month and they eventually found I had coeliac disease. It’s been a long road back to health and it was hard for a long time not to get angry that I’d had what I know now were such obvious symptoms (I saw a poster of symptoms later saying “could it be coeliac disease” and I had every single one). That causes itching and rashes too and inflammatory markers.

Ask for a blood test for coeliac if you haven’t had one. Say to your GP “could it be coeliac disease?”

Would also second asking about the cholestasis/ checking the liver function test. I had that with DD1 and the itching was something else. They induced DD early because of it but I don’t know if they cope with it better nowadays.

Hang in there! Be persistent. Doctors don’t always get it right.

How bad is DH credit? Only some types of "bad credit" show up on the types of credit check landlords and letting agents do. They can only see bad credit that leaves a public record is bankruptcy, CCJs, IVAs.

Defaults, late payments, and debt management plans are not seen by landlord credit checks. (The companies that do the checks try to hide this for obvious reasons)

So DO NOT declare these on applications!

Obviously this advice applies if you're in the UK