School holidays have started and it's so bloody stressful

[WhatAMum01]

Is it just me.i woke up this morning with a sense of complete dread and depression at the thought of entertaining cooking and cleaning up after my three for the proceeding 10 hours they'd be up and for the next six days following.
My youngest is severely disabled and for him not to be at his special needs school and home while looking after two older kids just kills me.hes a full time has to be watched 24/7 child and I feel torn trying to spread my care between three of them. I cant take him to most places ,hes a complete danger to himself and has no awareness running of at any opportunity.
i wish special needs schools didn't shut during holidays like private nurseries don't.kids like my son need Routine and structure all day.
Days like these have me dreaming that if I won the lottery I'd use my money to open dozens of free centres to help kids like mine and families like mine who are on their knees.
I'm so done in.

If you need holiday respite please speak to the school and ask who can support with this

There are 52 weeks schools and respite options available. If you contact your LA, they will be able to tell you what is available in your area.

Sounds like you need a PA.. speak to Social Services.
My friend has a PA for her son. She gets respite care for a number of hours every week.

I hear you! Both my children have autism and learning difficulties and school holidays are so hard.

We have applied for social care support and been rejected We now receive some support from a local charity but it's a drop in the ocean.

School holidays? They don't start until a week on Monday op?

YANBU. DP and I are dreading half term with our DD, who needs to be watched every second of the day.

Have you looked into Short Breaks respite care - should be on your LA’s local offer page. (We’ve used up our hours for the financial year 😭.)

School holidays? They don't start until a week on Monday op?

I'm in Scotland and the Schools finished up yesterday and are off until Thursday. But sure, this is obviously the important part of the OP's post

@HavenDilemma Ours started this morning.

YANBU Op. Not at all. We are lucky in our area Mencap run a cheapish play scheme for SEN children. Also the school are angels and run a similar scheme. Is there anything like that for you?

Oh god - why are some posters so narrow minded on these threads to not realise that not everyone lives in the same place and have the same school holidays?!

Anyway, op. Your situation sounds extremely tough and I'm so sorry. I want to echo what the others have said about contacting your LA to see if there are respite services are available to you.

School holidays? They don't start until a week on Monday op?

What a spectacularly dimwitted and unhelpful response. You have no clue where the OP lives. She could be on the other side of the world. But of course you know when her dc's school holidays are...

Sympathies, OP. I hope you find some help.

I hope there's some respite you can access.

HavenDilemma Well that was a helpful contribution to the thread, because all posters live in England and have the same holidays . My DC are at the start of a week's half term.

OP can you get some holiday respite help?

Hi all, yes as some have helpfully pointed out I am based in Scotland and our holidays have started from today.i have applied for social respite but they have been slow getting my son his official assessment despite agreeing upon visiting him if would be granted in his case.there is a couple of groups but they are booked a year in advance and and more,my son is on their waiting list too.ive tried googling local support charities but have come to nothing. I wish he could handle being in different environments, sometimes I think Severe Autism and learning disabilities like his is the worst disability a child could get,he just doesn't stand a chance in this world without someone watching him 24/7 to keep him safe.

@Bobbybobbins oh I'm so sorry to hear your sons have been rejected for social respite,may I ask why?I'm praying for this to happen for my son

@WhatAMum01

Fingers crossed you have a better result! They said 'no safeguarding issues' but what they basically meant was because they don't hit us or each other, we won't get anything. The criteria have shifted massively. I know people with less severely affected children who are older who get more. Hopefully it's better where you are!