To just turn up to the party?

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My ex has booked and paid for a party to a trampoline park for next weekend. She's invited friends from her school. He originally said I could go, then because he was angry at me for something he then said I can't go and I won't Be even seeing our daughter on her bday because he will have her all day. He's purely doing it out of spite as we both got to see our other daughter in December on her bday. We usually both spend the day with her and be civil just for the child so we both get to do things with her in her bday but rbis time he's stopping Me now even though my daughter wants me there. Should I just turn up against his wishes ?

Will he make a scene if you do, and is it worth taking the risk of ruining your dd’s birthday party?

Perhaps you could plan a special birthday treat for when she’s back with you.

If there is likely to be a scene then no, don't go. It sucks but it would be horrible to ruin your child's party.
Hopefully he will come around.

Sounds petty of him and spiteful but really I'm not sure. If you'd arranged something for her then would you want him just turning up even though you've asked him not to?

No you shouldn’t - it will just spoil her birthday. Book your own party for a different day, or have a special tea with a cake on your next day with her.

It’s petty of him however I wouldn’t go if it was going to cause a scene. It’s about your daughter after all not you two. Can’t you do something in the evening with her?