Lost present

[CakeandCoffeeQueen]

I meet up with my aunt this afternoon and gave her a late birthday present and some flowers, we then went to the cinema before picking up my children from school.
When we got home we realised she’d left them either on the bus or in the cinema, she hadn’t event opened it yet! I suggested calling the cinema to see if it was still there and she just sat there waiting for me to do it (they didn’t find it), she did say sorry but i’m frustrated she didn’t take better care.

I feel a bit upset but didn’t want to make a big deal out of it, I guess i’m asking how would you have handled it?

I’m sure she didn’t do it on purpose.

Her loss.

Though it's frustrating to do something nice for someone & then have it spoilt like that. You did all the right things & you sound very thoughtful.

Have you tried phoning the bus depot. You never know, an honest person could have handed it in if you're lucky.

@CakeandCoffeeQueen Obviously didn't do it deliberately, but YANBU. I would have been pissed off too.

Was it expensive?

I sent a box of gifts for a friend's kids once (their 2 birthdays were both within 3 days of each other - in March,) around £40 worth in total, and I sent it recorded delivery.

The post office tried to deliver and she wasn't in, so they left a card to get it from the sorting office, and long story short, she never went for it. The post office tried to deliver it again 4-5 days later, and she wasn't in AGAIN.

So the bloody thing came winging its way back about 3 weeks after I sent it, because she couldn't be arsed to pop to the sorting office 7-8 minutes WALK from her house, to get the package. She walked past the bloody place on the way to the school!

When I emailed her and said I was disappointed she never managed to pick up the gifts I had sent for HER children, she said 'never mind eh?' No thank you, no apology, NOTHING.

Needless to say, I never sent another THING to her or her family again, and I stopped making any effort with her. Haven't seen hide nor hair of her in 5-6 years.

Oooh, I went off on a tangent and a bit of a rant there sorry........

Yeah as a pp said, maybe contact the bus depot.

You were with her, surely you could have noticed too? These things happen sometimes and getting angry about it doesn't actually help.

Bridge really? That's like saying "I left my bag in the pub but my friend was with me and didn't notice so it's equally her fault"

We’re in a rough part of London so I doubt it would have been handed in and to be honest I feel like it’s up to her to try and find it/make calls etc.

I had a number of bags with me and didn’t think I needed to double check if she had all of hers.

I know she didn’t do it on purpose, I guess i’m frustrated she didn’t take more care. I put a lot of thought into it and thought she’d really like it.
She has form loosing hats/gloves/sunglasses regularly.

@Shinycat she doesn’t sound like a good friend.

Phone up and ask. Not all people in 'rough areas' are dishonest! Crikey

@stoneofdestiny I guess I don’t feel like I should be the one putting all the effort into finding something she lost, I already called the cinema.

I know not everyone in rough areas are dishonest, I’m born and bread This part of London but it is very unlikely to have been handed in.

I get it - a friend was brassic so I gave her £20 in her card which she knew I was doing, even though I couldn’t really afford it.........she left it unopened in the pub and what a surprise it wasn’t handed in - she even asked if I still had it in my bag

I wouldn’t give it anymore thought.
You gave her a present, it’s no longer your property.

What she did with it is upto her.

You’ve already done way more than I would’ve

I guess I don’t feel like I should be the one putting all the effort into finding something she lost, I already called the cinema.

But you're the one who is the most bothered about it by the sounds of it. You say your aunt has form for losing things, so you know she's a forgetful person yet you didn't think to remind her to pick up her present. Fine, but I don't quite understand what advice it is that that you're wanting.
By the way why did you give her her present late? You didn't forget her birthday did you?

@JRUIN this was the first time I saw her since her birthday as arranged well in advance, I didn’t forget it.

I don’t know what advice I was looking for, more venting my frustration and wondering if it was justified, rather than just being uptight.

I would expect to remind my 5yr old to remember a bag not at 67yr old adult nor would I expect her to have to remind me.